Match Questions

[GreyhoundsRUs]

Not Debbie Downer at all but a REALIST. When we picked placed to apply we did it with the knowledge that we would and could really end up there.

I'm thankful that many of you from this board have opened my eyes to the fact that it is VERY possible that we may match at #8 or #16.

I know DH will be happy as long as he matches (with perhaps some feelings of rejection). I am more worried about ruining his big day myself by MY reaction. I am trying to "hope for the best, expect the worst," but this is exactly why we invited our families to join us on the big day. I know our parents will be excited and proud of DH regardless of what the envelope holds and they will kind of lighten the mood and encourage us if it not exactly what I was "hoping" for.

So totally there with you

[GrayMatterWife]

...and not to sound too Debbie Downer but prepare yourself for the worst as much as you can.

Oh, my spoiled-always-got-exactly-what-he-wanted DH was such a d**khead on match day. TOTALLY. He did not get his **first** choice--which was an ultra-exclusive program. It was a reach, even for DH. WHAT A LITTLE PISSER!! He matched at a terrific program, but all he could hear was "didn't get #1." People were THRILLED for him. Random people he didn't know at the med school and hospital were coming up to congratulate him. And he was sulking at home.

I had arranged a big surprise party for him with all his good friends on match day, and had to cancel it, he was so foul. I had to lie to people, and claim that I was sick. I'd made this big sheet cake decorated with a "brain" that I'd made out of frosting from an anatomy pic. Got tossed.

After three weeks of that crap, I told him OFF. I called him EXACTLY what he was being and told him how utterly ungrateful he was. I was so mad that I think it surprised him. He improved after that.

Then, it turned out--after all that--that this program was a huge blessing for us, in many, many ways. We are much happier here than we would have been at his #1--or many other places.

He was a total turd. No tears. I've never seen him cry. He's not a crier. He is, however, apparently an egotistical, self-entitled jerk at times!

[Lynn]

Sounds like match day has not changed a single bit in the last 25 years! I do remember spouses and some children being there, but not any extended family. Mostly the whole class gathered in the atrium of one of the medical school buildings, and someone called out the names one by one. Then lots of screaming occurred. Couples that were both in the class were hoping they would match in the same city. We weren't so nervous - family practice is not that competitive - but some of the people wanting to go into surgery were. We went out to dinner with some other couples that night. You're all bringing back memories that I hadn't thought about in a long time.

[diggitydot]

Wow, I totally forgot that there are schools that open their letters together. DH and his classmates were obsessively hitting the refresh buttons from the comforts of their own homes. And a lot of his classmates ended up matching at one of their top 3 choices. I think only 3 or 4 people had to scramble, and one was because she was an idiot and only ranked one program. Duh.

[MarissaNicole]

Wow, I totally forgot that there are schools that open their letters together. DH and his classmates were obsessively hitting the refresh buttons from the comforts of their own homes. And a lot of his classmates ended up matching at one of their top 3 choices. I think only 3 or 4 people had to scramble, and one was because she was an idiot and only ranked one program. Duh.

Can you still get it online (around the same time)? I know you get an email later in the day (like at 1:00 p.m.)
Hmm - that is something I will have to see if DH can ask about!

[v-girl]

Wow, I totally forgot that there are schools that open their letters together. DH and his classmates were obsessively hitting the refresh buttons from the comforts of their own homes. And a lot of his classmates ended up matching at one of their top 3 choices. I think only 3 or 4 people had to scramble, and one was because she was an idiot and only ranked one program. Duh.

This is how DH found out his match.

Oh, if you're Catholic, ask St. Jude to pray for you -- patron saint of hopeless causes. Yes, I consider match a hopeless cause!

[HouseofWool]

Last year we got an email at the appointed time, both on Black Monday and on Wednesday. I remember both of us sitting there looking at his in-box almost too nervous to open it.

[oceanchild]

Can you still get it online (around the same time)? I know you get an email later in the day (like at 1:00 p.m.)
Hmm - that is something I will have to see if DH can ask about!

No, you get it later in the day. They incentivize the school parties.

[MarissaNicole]

No, you get it later in the day. They incentivize the school parties.

Why am I not surprised :-p

Both times we found out online at noon. We never went anywhere. For residency he was at home and I worked from my home that day, we were in different states and he called me with the results at 12:03.

For fellowship he was actually working so I logged in to the NRMP at noon and found out and texted him that he got his first choice. Then of course I announced it to my friends on facebook.

[scarlett09]

Looks like you can find out online if your DH matched on Monday, March 15 at 12PM EST. I remember doing this last year at work, and DF did the same thing on a computer wherever he was. Then we called each other, then I drove my co-workers nuts for the next three days.

You can find out where your DH matched at on Thursday, March 18 at 12PM EST in person via the all-powerful (and NOT see-through) envelope. If you can stand to wait another hour , you can find out where he matched online at 1PM EST. We didn't want to just sit around a computer, and his parents came up especially for this. But everyone handles this moment differently, do what you know is best for the two of you.

http://www.nrmp.org/res_match/yearly.html

[GrayMatterWife]

Looks like you can find out online if your DH matched on Monday, March 15 at 12PM EST.

That's so nice...to know ahead of time IF you matched, so at least you can begin the scramble. Back when NSG was early match, you found out you didn't match on Match Day. So you were not only waiting to find out where you matched, but IF you matched.

[NYCHoosier]

That's so nice...to know ahead of time IF you matched, so at least you can begin the scramble. Back when NSG was early match, you found out you didn't match on Match Day. So you were not only waiting to find out where you matched, but IF you matched.

Ugh, that would be awful!

My countdown is for Match (Thurs)Day. DH's is for Black Monday. How awful with that be? You go up to the mic to announce where you matched and find a blank/empty envelope.

[MarissaNicole]

Ugh, that would be awful!

My countdown is for Match (Thurs)Day. DH's is for Black Monday. How awful with that be? You go up to the mic to announce where you matched and find a blank/empty envelope.

Although it was EARLY match so I don't think you find out in front of anyone.

Part of me still wishes NSG was early match because you at least find out in January if you don't match and have a little more time to try and throw backup plans together.

Gosh what a nightmare if DH doesn't match, I don't even want to think about it - we'll just deal with it if it happens......

My stomach is doing flips just reading through this thread.
S was under the impression that we will be staying home and getting the Match news on the computer. I think I prefer that... I will be there visiting for 2 weeks.
The whole thing is very nerve racking!! (And I won't be moving with him next year so I can't imagine what it's doing for those that have a big move ahead....)