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Holy moly, this is so sad.
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I think Jenn is right that social media adds an extra layer. I have thought about this and facebook etc is such an important part of kids lives. It used to be that once you left school you were safe for the most part. Email, FB etc have made kids 24/7 targets.~Mom of 5, married to an ID doc
~A Rolling Stone Gathers No Moss
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On this topic, what bothersme about how the schools deal with it is by social training/bullying awareness courses for kids. This puts the responsibility on victims and bystanders. The most effective tool, IMO is the response of adults (much like discipline in the home). The responses that we have seen in regards to bullying have been completely lackluster. They teach kids to ignore it and tell an adult but the adults don't take action for fear if offending parents and sometimes out of a desire to remain popular with offending students.~Mom of 5, married to an ID doc
~A Rolling Stone Gathers No Moss
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Originally posted by PrincessFiona View PostOn this topic, what bothersme about how the schools deal with it is by social training/bullying awareness courses for kids. This puts the responsibility on victims and bystanders. The most effective tool, IMO is the response of adults (much like discipline in the home). The responses that we have seen in regards to bullying have been completely lackluster. They teach kids to ignore it and tell an adult but the adults don't take action for fear if offending parents and sometimes out of a desire to remain popular with offending students.
This particular teacher has taken him under his wing and is trying to help him as much as possible. The flip side, though, is that the administration is beyong pathetic. Isaac does not have the ability to read cues. The bullies antagonize him to the breaking point and then he lashes out. The pity is that they other kids seem to have figured out how to maximize the damage by timing their attacks so Isaac will react just as a teacher is rounding a corner. They act innocent and I gets in trouble. Even when there is video footage, it doesn't seem to matter.
I worry about this with Caleb. I think he will float along and not be overly targeted, but I still think about it.Kris
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Originally posted by RapunzelSo, the ultimate problem is that parents are not instilling a sense of ethics, responsibility, integrity, and personal courage in their own children. Not surprising in the least. Without these essential life skills you're going to find gangs of bullies thriving. Perhaps what the reporters who are writing up these stories on places where bullying is concentrated need to do is start examining the parents. Obviously the adult culture is not feeding into good or even adequate parenting skills.
Another thought: Perhaps instead of having special courses for kids on bullying, all parents of children enrolled in educational institutions need to be required to attend seminars and/or classes on their responsibilities with bullying (ie how to spot bullying, how to prevent their children from becoming bullies, effective behavioral strategies for stopping already existing bullying behavior with their own children). And, perhaps there is quite a bit of denial going on with the parents of these bullies? Maybe there need to be parental consequences when a child is involved in bullying at school?Wife to Family Medicine attending, Mom to DS1 and DS2
Professional Relocation Specialist &
"The Official IMSN Enabler"
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I think they don't spend enough time with adults. It leads to a Lord of the Flies atmosphere. The kids that seem to be the biggest bullies here have the most freedom -- as in they spend little time with family/teachers/adult settings and more time with peers. They are KIDS. They don't know what proper behavior is until it is modeled over and over and over.Angie
Gyn-Onc fellowship survivor - 10 years out of the training years; reluctant suburbanite
Mom to DS (18) and DD (15) (and many many pets)
"Where are we going - and what am I doing in this handbasket?"
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Originally posted by LilySayWhatWe have adults being paid to yell and bully each other under the guise of being political pundits or media personalities (Glenn Beck, O'Reilly, Dr Laura, and Rush come to mind).
I thought the bullying story was absolutely heartbreaking. It was all over the news yesterday. As someone who was badly harassed, both physically and verbally, in high school and ultimately had to change schools, I sympathize. Although, back in my day, at least it was 24/7 on the web. If I were the parent of a bully, I think I would be absolutely devastated. To know that I had failed as a parent to teach compassion and character. Nothing else I do matters if I fail on such a basic level with my children.
Originally posted by Sheherezade View PostThe kids that seem to be the biggest bullies here have the most freedom -- as in they spend little time with family/teachers/adult settings and more time with peers. They are KIDS. They don't know what proper behavior is until it is modeled over and over and over.Last edited by GrayMatterWife; 10-09-2010, 02:44 PM.
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I think they don't spend enough time with adults. It leads to a Lord of the Flies atmosphere. The kids that seem to be the biggest bullies here have the most freedom -- as in they spend little time with family/teachers/adult settings and more time with peers. They are KIDS. They don't know what proper behavior is until it is modeled over and over and over.In my dreams I run with the Kenyans.
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I have a question. I've been second guessing myself on it since yesterday. There's a girl in dd #1 class. She's 6. She rides the bus home with my kids (they ride in w me in the mornings)
Thursday all the way to the other girls house she was slapping my dd, age 5, on the head. It was all the way home
Dd got off the bus crying and obviously upset. I asked my other two and they said the bus driver said she'd take care if it. My neighbor who is a bus driver, said to contact the principal. I did Friday am, but felt like one of "those moms". He was super nice and asked if it was ok if my dd and other girl were brought together for a chat and that he'd change the bus seating. Was I right in bringing it up? Or was I over reacting?
The little girl...we've already had issues w. She demanded my other dd's silly band. And said if dd didn't buy her one, my dd wouldn't get hers back.
Ug. In my heart I feel like it was right...but my head says I'm an over protective freak.~shacked up with an ob/gyn~
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Originally posted by rainbabies View PostI have a question. I've been second guessing myself on it since yesterday. There's a girl in dd #1 class. She's 6. She rides the bus home with my kids (they ride in w me in the mornings)
Thursday all the way to the other girls house she was slapping my dd, age 5, on the head. It was all the way home
Dd got off the bus crying and obviously upset. I asked my other two and they said the bus driver said she'd take care if it. My neighbor who is a bus driver, said to contact the principal. I did Friday am, but felt like one of "those moms". He was super nice and asked if it was ok if my dd and other girl were brought together for a chat and that he'd change the bus seating. Was I right in bringing it up? Or was I over reacting?
The little girl...we've already had issues w. She demanded my other dd's silly band. And said if dd didn't buy her one, my dd wouldn't get hers back.
Ug. In my heart I feel like it was right...but my head says I'm an over protective freak.Kris
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You did the right thing. It's never too early to show a no-tolerance policy, and by having a conversation, you are in no way being irrational.
You're a good mom - kudos to you for sticking up for your daughter
Like my mom (ECE, National Board Certified teacher) says "Hands are not for hitting."Wife to Family Medicine attending, Mom to DS1 and DS2
Professional Relocation Specialist &
"The Official IMSN Enabler"
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Originally posted by HouseofWool View PostAdrianne - this presumes that the kids are not sociopaths. I am seeing more and more that the parents set reasonable limits and enforce them and the kids continue to flaunt authority. It sucks.
Some are scarier than others, but still - you have a good point.Wife to Family Medicine attending, Mom to DS1 and DS2
Professional Relocation Specialist &
"The Official IMSN Enabler"
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Originally posted by rainbabies View PostMy neighbor who is a bus driver, said to contact the principal. I did Friday am, but felt like one of "those moms". He was super nice and asked if it was ok if my dd and other girl were brought together for a chat and that he'd change the bus seating. Was I right in bringing it up? Or was I over reacting?
The little girl...we've already had issues w. She demanded my other dd's silly band. And said if dd didn't buy her one, my dd wouldn't get hers back.
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