Introvert or Extrovert

[ladymoreta]

And now for a timely Cracked article for all of us introverts: http://www.cracked.com/blog/5-ways-y...yone-hate-you/.

[Alacrity]

I'm only an extrovert compared to my wife.
My parents taught me to say three things to everyone at a party.
My wife will find one person and know him inside and out

[SoonerTexan]

I read something interesting today about the Pope and Twitter that pointed out that he is quite the introvert. I never thought about that before. Just an interesting thought.

[spotty_dog]

Tangential question: Can you only be fluent in bullshit if you're an extrovert?

I think yes. My mom and I were commiserating about our shared introvert tendencies and we both agreed that making small talk of any flavor is the absolute WORST torture.

[GreyhoundsRUs]

[QUOTE=LilySayWhat;636770]*tap dances through thread* EXTROVERTALERT!!!!!!!! *jazz hands* *spirit fingers* Hi, I'm Rush President, damn glad to meet ya!

[Michele]

[QUOTE=LilySayWhat;636770]*tap dances through thread* EXTROVERTALERT!!!!!!!! *jazz hands* *spirit fingers* Hi, I'm Rush President, damn glad to meet ya!

[ladymoreta]

I'm an introvert with a lot of extrovert tendencies, but I like small talk. The worst for me are conversations with people I kind of know but not really closely. I always feel so stupid after those, like I didn't say or do anything right.

[reciprocity]

Tangential question: Can you only be fluent in bullshit if you're an extrovert?

as an introverted lawyer with a marketing degree, I assure you it is possible to speak fluent bullshit (it's just not very enjoyable)

[Ginge]

I'm an introvert, too.
I feel the same way!

[MrsK]

I think I'd could very well be a closeted introvert just now figuring it out. I was the student freshman advisor that would manically teach newcomers the polka and chicken dance for school pep rallies and then go to my room and wonder why I felt so depressed.

[Thirteen]

I like MrsK's definition of closet introvert. I always thought I was extroverted, because I talk a lot. However, it usually stresses me out and I need a few days to recover. I am also pretty bad at asking typical small talk questions: I'll attempt it, but it's draining.

[spaz]

To be honest, I'm not sure what I am. I love people. I love teaching. But it is also draining, so I have to have times by myself. But too much time by myself and I obsess and I feel much better when I am around others.. I guess when hubby was in residency my world was perfect. I would teach high schoolers all day. I would come home and take a nap. I would get up and figure out what was for dinner. ( With just the two of us, it was fairly easy and my meals lasted several days as opposed to now with 2 teenage boys and a preteen girl!!!) He was on call enough that I got to do what I wanted to do and then I would do whatever he wanted to do when he was home. I had tons of friends at the high school and in my church. I was very happy..

Then we had kids... Sigh.. I thought that being a teacher, I would be a good mom. HA!!!! I have never really gotten used to them being around 24/7. Plus, I guess that since I was nearly 30 when I had them I liked my being able to do what I wanted when I wanted... I don't know, but staying home has been really hard for me. I'm not sure what I am now. It is hard to be "on stage" and perfect 24/7. Teaching I would be fabulous, understanding, interesting and then I had so much down town and then I could gear up and be perfect for hubby when he came home.. Parenting brought no down time... So I'm not sure what I am... Selfish, I guess..

[Curegirl]

Don't beat yourself down...Most of my friends who are teachers swear they'll never have kids after dealing with them at school. Not that they're bad, but they just need a break when they get home. And it's ok not to know exactly what you want and who you are because you're always changing. And change is hard to deal with for a lot of people-some may take months or years to adjust, especially when it comes with a new role/identity. Maybe it might help not to place these heavy expectations on yourself. I know, easier said than done.

[Cinderella]

I'm feeling my introvert clawing at my insides today. A neighbor knocked on our door to invite us to a spaghetti feed next week and my social hubby invited her into our living room. After talking with her we said ok we'll go and then I opened the door for her to leave because I thought she was done talking. Then I realized perhaps I was being rude and rushing her out the door because I felt uncomfortable with someone in my house and I just wanted her to leave. Ack! To late the damage was done. She talked a little more but I held the door open. LOL! I'm a horrible person for it, I know. She was cool about it but when she finally left my husband told me what I did was not cool. That I should have waited to open the door for her to leave when she signaled she was ready. I felt shamed by him but relieved I had to house to myself again. I told him I don't need the stress from him and then I went to hide in my dark comfy cubby hole and listen to some music to push the bad vibes out. Ugh. It took awhile to restore my introverted palace of peace.

[civilspouse]

I'm feeling my introvert clawing at my insides today. A neighbor knocked on our door to invite us to a spaghetti feed next week and my social hubby invited her into our living room. After talking with her we said ok we'll go and then I opened the door for her to leave because I thought she was done talking. Then I realized perhaps I was being rude and rushing her out the door because I felt uncomfortable with someone in my house and I just wanted her to leave. Ack! To late the damage was done. She talked a little more but I held the door open. LOL! I'm a horrible person for it, I know. She was cool about it but when she finally left my husband told me what I did was not cool. That I should have waited to open the door for her to leave when she signaled she was ready. I felt shamed by him but relieved I had to house to myself again. I told him I don't need the stress from him and then I went to hide in my dark comfy cubby hole and listen to some music to push the bad vibes out. Ugh. It took awhile to restore my introverted palace of peace.

I understand completly. The only difference is that DH and I are both big introverts so it doesn't occur to either of us invite the person in. Later in the day we might say...maybe we should have invited her in, offered her something to drink...oh well, next time. Maybe it's good that you and your DH balance each other out .