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  • #16
    I tip at restaurants but not when I pick up food and not at Starbucks, etc unless it's spare change. I tip because servers live on tips. I also tip in cabs though I'm not sure why that's required. I hate the uncertainty - just tell me what it costs and I'll pay you!
    Married to a Urology Attending! (that is an understated exclamation point)
    Mama to C (Jan 2012), D (Nov 2013), and R (April 2016). Consulting and homeschooling are my day jobs.

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    • #17
      Ugh cabs. That's why we only take uber or lyft!
      I'm just trying to make it out alive!

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      • #18
        I tip everywhere it's appropriate Growing up, most of my friends (and frequently their parents) lived off their tips and a good night meant the difference between making rent or not.

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        • #19
          Originally posted by diggitydot View Post
          I tip everywhere it's appropriate Growing up, most of my friends (and frequently their parents) lived off their tips and a good night meant the difference between making rent or not.
          I am not talking about servers and bartenders, etc. I am talking about all the other people with jobs. So, should I tip the guy that picks up my trash every week, or the guy my plumber has to help him, or the receptionist at my doctor's office, or the cashier at wal-mart....you get the idea. All these people could use better wages.

          I also do not get why certain people get tipped and others do not. Let's say that spa place charges $100 for a massage and pays massage therapist only $25. Granted they are not working 40 hrs a week. Soooo, maybe only 20hrs. That is still more than someone working 40hrs minimum wage. Why should they be tipped?

          I say, just charge me more, pay people well and put an end to the tipping.
          Finally - we are finished with training! Hello real world!!

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          • #20
            Tipping jars annoy me. No, I'm not tipping you for making my Subway sandwich. Sorry.

            I found a new salon that doesn't allow tipping. It's pretty amazing!

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            • #21
              Originally posted by wiva View Post
              Tipping jars annoy me. No, I'm not tipping you for making my Subway sandwich. Sorry.

              I found a new salon that doesn't allow tipping. It's pretty amazing!
              While I lived in Costa Rica I learned not to tip the stylists. It was actually considered rude since they are professionals.
              Finally - we are finished with training! Hello real world!!

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              • #22
                Do whatever makes you comfortable. If you want to tip the garbage dudes every week, I don't think they'll bitch.

                I tip everywhere *I* feel it's appropriate. Doesn't mean anyone else needs to do the same.

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                • #23
                  For me, tipping just doesn't make sense in many circumstances. I tip my hairdresser, taxi, movers etc but don't tip much for coffee.
                  ~Mom of 5, married to an ID doc
                  ~A Rolling Stone Gathers No Moss

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                  • #24
                    If I go to a local business for take-out or coffee, most of the time I'm feeling generous and add 10% on the ticket or drop a buck in the jar. Sometimes I'm not feeling generous though and I don't sweat it.
                    Alison

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                    • #25
                      I definitely understand and am happy to tip when I understand why I'm doing it - obviously meals/bars, etc., even nails and massages and haircuts (even though it gets so expensive)...it's the weird in betweens I never know about...like when I get my car washed/detailed. I have an SUV and that can run me a nice chunk of change depending on what I'm having done...and I don't see other people tipping but that doesn't mean they aren't doing it. And do I tip every person who is washing and buffing my car? I just never know and usually panic! The tip jars at cafes or sandwich or coffee places does sort of irk me because I feel pressured and will usually put change in and when I get take out I do tip a dollar or so, but when I leave the tip line empty I do feel like a piece of shit.

                      It's so nice when traveling in Europe and you learn that tipping isn't part of their culture in most cases. You just pay and move on!
                      Wife, support system, and partner-in-crime to PGY-3 (IM) and spoiler of our 11 y/o yellow lab

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                      • #26
                        Originally posted by LilySayWhat
                        I'm a tipper. 20% generally for servers, cabbies (in NYC they have to pay a premium to accept credit cards and it went into effect a few years ago, the rate increase) if they are good, otherwise if they suck I stiff them or give them 10% if the cab stinks. I tip my hair dresser and nail techs 20%. Massage therapist and facialist 20%. My waxer doesn't accept tips at all. I don't tip for coffee. I tip 10% when I get takeaway food, because they still have to make it and box it up and the person who is ringing me up is usually a bartender or wait staff and that's time they're off the floor.

                        I tip movers and furniture delivery guys $20 usually if it's heavy stuff (for delivery; movers depends on the size of the move and how well it's done).
                        This is me too.

                        The tip jar really makes a huge difference to the workers. While it seems minimal and silly those extra dollars dd20 collected during last summer went to her college fund and probably paid for a couple text books. I know our oldest two greatly appreciate the tips from the tip jar.
                        Tara
                        Married 20 years to MD/PhD in year 3 of MFM fellowship. SAHM to five wonderful children (#6 due in August), a sweet GSD named Bella, a black lab named Toby, and 1 guinea pig.

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                        • #27
                          I tip people who make my daily life easier and more predictable/pleasant. I generally don't tip some faceless person I never met. If they knock my socks off and go above and beyond I absolutely top well. Those people are scattered through different service industries, but when I find them I hold on tight! I round up on my sitters, 20% hair, haven't had mani/pedi in 2 years (it shows!). I tipped our movers well and they shaved the time off our total. I only saved $100 but much more went into their pockets and they went above and beyond to accommodate all are furniture rearrangements. We have a few regular waiters who enrich our families lives.

                          That said, I don't automatically tip . There a continuum out there if service.
                          -Ladybug

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                          • #28
                            I'm a tipper, I even tip at the gas pump (NJ doesn't allow pumping your own gas). If you stand out in the ice / rain / heat to pump my gas, I'll give you a tip. Usually just a few dollars and I tell them to gab a coffee on me.
                            Luanne
                            wife, mother, nurse practitioner

                            "You have not converted a man because you have silenced him." (John, Viscount Morely, On Compromise, 1874)

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                            • #29
                              I always tip for coffee. It's an art form here and bad coffee is easily distinguishable from ah-mazing coffee. Pulling a shot of espresso is a learned skilled and not everyone can do it well.

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                              • #30
                                I am admittedly not a big tipper. But My DH is. I do tip waitstaff, bartenders, hair stylists 15-20% and I don't frequently get other services (mani/pedis, massages, pet groomers, etc.) where there is a grey area as far as tipping. But when I do tip, I like to make the amount of the tip reflective of the quality of service I received. But DH will give everyone 20-25% regardless of service. There's a local coffee place we occasionally go to that has consistently bad service (which is why we don't go there too often), but he still tips crazy well. It used to bother me (more so in the pre-income years where every penny we spent was loan money), but I realize now that this is just a byproduct of his generous spirit, which is something I love about him.

                                But I am still the camp that we are expected to over-tip in today's society.
                                PA and wife of a PGY2 in neurosurgery. And "cat-mom" to the two sweetest cats anyone could hope for.

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