If you could go back in time and change something

[SoonerTexan]

I would have worked less in college and enjoyed it more.


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

[MrsK]

I would have E AND N.


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

Oh, I just felt my heart break. I've been thinking about you and your sweet babies are forever in my prayers.

[ladymoreta]

I *think* I wish I'd majored in computer science (engineering) rather than MIS (business). I don't know for sure that I'd have enjoyed my working years more, but I always enjoyed the programming that I got to do, more so than the business analyst stuff.

I also wish I'd learned to sew from my Granny. Even more so than just knowing how to sew, I'd have loved to have that time with her.

[zentrisha]

I wouldn't have let myself go and gained 60 pounds. Would have stayed active.

[alotofyarn]

I'm torn - there are a few things I regret, but so many of them led to where I am today, and I'm happy with my current life.

[diggitydot]

If you could go back in time and change something

I'm torn - there are a few things I regret, but so many of them led to where I am today, and I'm happy with my current life.

That's my perspective, too.

The ONLY thing I'd consider changing if I could is that my parents ever met each other. Not so much because how it impacts me, but how it mind fucks my mom and sister. Their emotional baggage is some hefty shit and they spread it all around.

[Curegirl]

I wish I spent more time with my grandma (and other loved ones) before she passed away. No other regrets.

[HouseofWool]

I'm torn - there are a few things I regret, but so many of them led to where I am today, and I'm happy with my current life.

I fully agree with this.

But, I still wish I hadn't married him.

[alotofyarn]

I sometimes wonder what sort of experiences I missed out on because I was too shy. There were a couple of guys I might have dated otherwise, but mostly I know that they weren't worth it.

[TulipsAndSunscreen]

Yes, even despite saying that I wish my parents hadn't married, it made me the person I am today to have to deal with them so I don't really regret it (not that I had control).
But then I get so pissed when my dad says he wishes he'd never met my mom bc it means my brother and I wouldn't be around.

[HouseofWool]

And I feel guilty for that exact reason. I love my kids, but I'm not entirely sure it was worth the price.

[Ladybug]

I wish I had (or someone else had) noticed the signs of depression and self-sabotage in college and started meds and therapy then. On the other hand it's made me perceptive and empathetic towards teens going through the same thing at the school where I work now. I totally get it, and I try to support them in the ways they are ready to let me. We have such better science and treatments now.

[houseelf]

I am having a hard time answering this seemingly conversational question.

Anytime before the last year, I would have said "Nothing!" because the hard stuff is the journey I was meant to take.

I still really want to answer this, but it is hard. I definitely empathize with Ladybug's wish that therapy should have been started sooner rather than later. Maybe it wouldn't have changed a thing. I don't know. We're not ready until we're ready. I"m trying really hard to live with openheartedness and acceptance, but regret does linger back there somewhere. I just don't have something specific I can tangibly point to and say "THAT!"

This probably makes little sense to anyone but me. In short, this question challenged me in ways that I'm not sure it was intended.

[diggitydot]

Makes LOADS of sense.

[houseelf]

The problem with this question is that we're not supposed to know things until we're supposed to know them. Maybe the wisdom we have now would have robbed us of the innocence if we had it then. Maybe the not knowing was the gift then and the knowing is the gift now.

I will tell you this. I live my life a HELL of a lot more relationship centered than I ever have before. I'm still getting stuff done, but people first.

I also do not regret a single dollar I have ever spent on travel. (Believe me I spent it when I didn't have it). I rarely remember the things I bought though.