Match day memories

[MrsK]

I honestly cannot even begin to think about match day. I'm already stressing out big time about it and it's 1 year away for us. Reading your stories is making me panic. They're either great or not so great. DH is putting in his picks for his acting internships and thinking about some away rotations. Honestly thinking about all of this is making me nauseous


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In all honesty, ours was the worst case scenario and we still survived it. Whatever happens, it will all be fine in the end.

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[rufflesanddots]

I honestly cannot even begin to think about match day. I'm already stressing out big time about it and it's 1 year away for us. Reading your stories is making me panic. They're either great or not so great. DH is putting in his picks for his acting internships and thinking about some away rotations. Honestly thinking about all of this is making me nauseous


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I totally get that. Ours is 2-3 years away. Sometimes it's fun to think about and imagine where we'd end up and other times it's decidedly terrifying.

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[Doctor+Teacher=Love]

Our match day experience happened last Friday the 18th. It was probably the hardest day we have ever had as a couple. DH had ranked all of his top programs in the order he wanted placing home institution at #1. We were told by the home institution that he pretty much was guaranteed a place there. We didn't worry at all. He put the rank list in, and at the last minute put down one place on the end that he didn't really like but was told my officials at the school that he didn't need to not rank them because he might not match if he did that. We would have preferred to SOAP and find somewhere closer to home but we listened to his advisors because of the unlikelihood we would get that far down the list. Match Day rolls around and the other two people in his class going into his specialty announced that they had been matched at the home institution. Finally, our name is called and we are feeling pretty good because of the other two candidates matches. Get behind the curtain to open the envelope and open it up. The listing match states that he has matched at the last place he ranked that we didn't even want to rank. We announce, go off stage, sit down and are just numb until the end of the ceremony. We cried all the way home from the ceremony. He didn't go to any of the parties, or celebrations that night, and we just stayed home and wallowed. We are still trying to figure out some way to stay at home, but honestly, we know it's best for him to just accept the match.

My advice: Don't rank a program that you don't want to go to, even if your advisors tell you to.

Good news though is that we will be ok. We know that God has his hand on us, and will guide us through whatever comes. = )

[MrsK]

Our match day experience happened last Friday the 18th. It was probably the hardest day we have ever had as a couple. DH had ranked all of his top programs in the order he wanted placing home institution at #1. We were told by the home institution that he pretty much was guaranteed a place there. We didn't worry at all. He put the rank list in, and at the last minute put down one place on the end that he didn't really like but was told my officials at the school that he didn't need to not rank them because he might not match if he did that. We would have preferred to SOAP and find somewhere closer to home but we listened to his advisors because of the unlikelihood we would get that far down the list. Match Day rolls around and the other two people in his class going into his specialty announced that they had been matched at the home institution. Finally, our name is called and we are feeling pretty good because of the other two candidates matches. Get behind the curtain to open the envelope and open it up. The listing match states that he has matched at the last place he ranked that we didn't even want to rank. We announce, go off stage, sit down and are just numb until the end of the ceremony. We cried all the way home from the ceremony. He didn't go to any of the parties, or celebrations that night, and we just stayed home and wallowed. We are still trying to figure out some way to stay at home, but honestly, we know it's best for him to just accept the match.

My advice: Don't rank a program that you don't want to go to, even if your advisors tell you to.

Good news though is that we will be ok. We know that God has his hand on us, and will guide us through whatever comes. = )

I know this sounds glib now but at the end of the day it all works out. SOAP wouldn't have guaranteed a better location. We scrambled and ended up without a residency. I was a lawyer and had just become a partner in a BigLaw firm, had to go through licensing and all that too...only to finally get a residency in a less desired location and go through licensing again. At the time, it felt like the end of the world. But, in retrospect, it was a speed bump.

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[MAPPLEBUM]

Can I ask where you are now and where you'll be going? There's a lot of people on here who know a LOT about the different areas. We ended up matching somewhere we never in a million years thought we'd end up and it's been WONDERFUL. In fact in the end we'll have stayed here for internship, residency, and fellowship because it's been so great.

Our match day experience happened last Friday the 18th. It was probably the hardest day we have ever had as a couple. DH had ranked all of his top programs in the order he wanted placing home institution at #1. We were told by the home institution that he pretty much was guaranteed a place there. We didn't worry at all. He put the rank list in, and at the last minute put down one place on the end that he didn't really like but was told my officials at the school that he didn't need to not rank them because he might not match if he did that. We would have preferred to SOAP and find somewhere closer to home but we listened to his advisors because of the unlikelihood we would get that far down the list. Match Day rolls around and the other two people in his class going into his specialty announced that they had been matched at the home institution. Finally, our name is called and we are feeling pretty good because of the other two candidates matches. Get behind the curtain to open the envelope and open it up. The listing match states that he has matched at the last place he ranked that we didn't even want to rank. We announce, go off stage, sit down and are just numb until the end of the ceremony. We cried all the way home from the ceremony. He didn't go to any of the parties, or celebrations that night, and we just stayed home and wallowed. We are still trying to figure out some way to stay at home, but honestly, we know it's best for him to just accept the match.

My advice: Don't rank a program that you don't want to go to, even if your advisors tell you to.

Good news though is that we will be ok. We know that God has his hand on us, and will guide us through whatever comes. = )

[MrsK]

[MENTION=5134]Doctor+Teacher=Love[/MENTION]. You might also be surprised at how great being newlyweds in a new city can be. It was kind of exciting for my husband and I to be exploring a new city together and it was nice settling into our marriage without interference from our families. It was fun meeting new people as Mr & Mrs too.

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[ides]

Welcome! I know it can feel like a blow when you're assured you'll match somewhere and you are being lied to. I agree that matching is better than scrambling or soaping. Locations are often a struggle. Many don't end up where they want after training either (yes, that's us). Good luck - it may be a great adventure!


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[MrsK]

Welcome! I know it can feel like a blow when you're assured you'll match somewhere and you are being lied to. I agree that matching is better than scrambling or soaping. Locations are often a struggle. Many don't end up where they want after training either (yes, that's us). Good luck - it may be a great adventure!


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Or some of us end up loving someplace we never would have considered.

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[Doctor+Teacher=Love]

Y'all are all so sweet! We are actually headed to New Orleans in a couple of months. I know we will end up liking it a lot more than what we think, it was just unexpected. Thank you all for your kind words of support! We are so excited to get the chance to actually start our marriage soon. Being in a new place alone is what I'm thinking will make us depend on each other even more and bring us closer. I am soooo happy I found this forum!

[MrsF]

I have a question about match day. So my husband doesn't match until next year but my MIL is already pressuring me about planning a party for him and his younger brother who is graduating from high school the same year. I know residency typically starts in July but my question is when do they typically need to be in the city of their residency. I know this probably varies by program but I'm looking for just a general time frame to please my very pushy MIL.


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[TulipsAndSunscreen]

Match day is in March. Graduation is usually end of May and they have to be in their new city by (usually mid/end of June for orientation). Plus, keep in mind that once residency starts, he will have zero time for anything administrative. So, getting new drivers licenses, signing mortgage docs, etc all need to be done before residency starts. We moved in on June 4th and that didn't feel like much time (DHs program started last full week in June with orientation starting a week before that...which sucked bc we didn't know about orientation until we arrived and just lost a week).

[poky]

Yes, plan on needing to move in to the new location (assuming you have to move) by mid-June. It's likely the last week or two of June will be "orientation" stuff and get-to-know-you picnics and the like.

[TulipsAndSunscreen]

Yeah the week of useless "trust falls and talking about emotions" surprised us. Obviously it didn't include anything useful like a hospital tour.

[medpedspouse]

Yeah the week of useless "trust falls and talking about emotions" surprised us. Obviously it didn't include anything useful like a hospital tour.

This totally cracked me up!! I readily admit that there a baaaaad leadership/team building type of activities - usually bad facilitators. However, what made me laugh was the "useless" part because most physicians think leadership, team building and communication type of trainings are useless regardless of facilitator.

[TulipsAndSunscreen]

This totally cracked me up!! I readily admit that there a baaaaad leadership/team building type of activities - usually bad facilitators. However, what made me laugh was the "useless" part because most physicians think leadership, team building and communication type of trainings are useless regardless of facilitator.

Well, it's useless for the gen surg interns (Uro does a year of gen surg first) to do trust falls and talk about communication in a way that is focused on trusting/communicating with EACH OTHER, considering that after that week, they almost never (like maybe 1 month in 12) EVER worked together again because they were divided across 12 services and even on the same service, were always on the opposite schedule or on another sub service. So, yeah, it wasn't that helpful. What would have been helpful would have been something like a hospital tour, an intro to the EMR, a discussion about each of the services by a senior resident from that service (aka, here's what's important on our service, etc.).