I am trying to be zen master/mommy/wife but argh I want a plan!!!!! WAH! In this coming month we find out whether DH won an NIH grant which would extend our fun-filled general surgery years in Minnesota from 7 to 8. Of course, this additional year would be a research year as oppossed to a clinical year (Read: super cushy lifestyle), but it is another year in living in that suspended life called residency in which one doesn't own one's life.
On one hand, this has been a fantastic year, why not do another year in the lab? It would be great to have DH around more, especially with our newly expanded family. On the other hand, this will mean that at the end of the day, we will have ten (10-- you read that correctly) years in residency and fellowship training in total. As you all know, residency ain't for the faint of heart. Our life is dictated by trying to make things work in our tiny living space, tight financial means, and living under a a harried schedule until the end. (Whatever "the end" means?) All of you attending spouses, please don't burst my fantasies about a more stress-free life style being done offers. I prefer my delusions. Also, all of you military spouses out there: feel free to jump me for my wimpiness on the topic of not being able to control my destiny. I realize that this takes guts to even complain about this in light of what you all face.
At some level, I do realize that control over one's destiny is but an illusion. BUT WAH! It just feels like nothing is up to us.
Honestly, I don't know what I'm hoping for either way in regards to this grant. Sure, it would be great if he got the grant because it would pay back student loans and allow him more time to be with us.....On the other hand, it is another year that I feel like we are still living somewhat of a bohemian collegiate wanderlust lifestyle here.
Chant with me........oooooommmmmmmm.....oooooommmmmmmm......
Clearly, I'm too Type A for this lifestyle.
Kelly
On one hand, this has been a fantastic year, why not do another year in the lab? It would be great to have DH around more, especially with our newly expanded family. On the other hand, this will mean that at the end of the day, we will have ten (10-- you read that correctly) years in residency and fellowship training in total. As you all know, residency ain't for the faint of heart. Our life is dictated by trying to make things work in our tiny living space, tight financial means, and living under a a harried schedule until the end. (Whatever "the end" means?) All of you attending spouses, please don't burst my fantasies about a more stress-free life style being done offers. I prefer my delusions. Also, all of you military spouses out there: feel free to jump me for my wimpiness on the topic of not being able to control my destiny. I realize that this takes guts to even complain about this in light of what you all face.
At some level, I do realize that control over one's destiny is but an illusion. BUT WAH! It just feels like nothing is up to us.
Honestly, I don't know what I'm hoping for either way in regards to this grant. Sure, it would be great if he got the grant because it would pay back student loans and allow him more time to be with us.....On the other hand, it is another year that I feel like we are still living somewhat of a bohemian collegiate wanderlust lifestyle here.
Chant with me........oooooommmmmmmm.....oooooommmmmmmm......
Clearly, I'm too Type A for this lifestyle.
Kelly
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