My husband started medical school this fall. We moved from a city that I loved where I had a great career (that allowed me to take my son to work), family and great friends to a much smaller city where I have one friend, no family and a large house to take care of. Our son is 14 months old now and was 6 months old when we moved. I am having a really hard time making the transition from working-mom-in-large-city to SAHM-in-small-town.
My relationship with my husband is suffering for several reasons. Firstly, I am mad at him for having a great community of friends and a fullfilling life. I love my son and I chose to stay home, but I don't love the stay at home lifestyle - I miss working, I miss having adult interactions every day, I miss the satisfaction of doing a job well and having others recognize it. I hate having to take the lion's share of the housework, and my husband and I often fight because him leaving even a small mess that would otherwise mean nothing becomes more work I have to do. I have seriously considered going back to work but I now live in a small town that doesn't have many opportunities in my field. I even applied to a couple waitressing jobs to no avail.
Are there any other moms out there who miss their careers? How do you make yourself happy and fullfilled staying at home? How do you keep your relationship with your husband alive when he feels like a guest who sometimes takes care of the baby? It is deeply satisfying to me that my son is happy, healthy and confident, but that doens't cancell out the part of me that really loved working and misses it. Any advice would help.
My relationship with my husband is suffering for several reasons. Firstly, I am mad at him for having a great community of friends and a fullfilling life. I love my son and I chose to stay home, but I don't love the stay at home lifestyle - I miss working, I miss having adult interactions every day, I miss the satisfaction of doing a job well and having others recognize it. I hate having to take the lion's share of the housework, and my husband and I often fight because him leaving even a small mess that would otherwise mean nothing becomes more work I have to do. I have seriously considered going back to work but I now live in a small town that doesn't have many opportunities in my field. I even applied to a couple waitressing jobs to no avail.
Are there any other moms out there who miss their careers? How do you make yourself happy and fullfilled staying at home? How do you keep your relationship with your husband alive when he feels like a guest who sometimes takes care of the baby? It is deeply satisfying to me that my son is happy, healthy and confident, but that doens't cancell out the part of me that really loved working and misses it. Any advice would help.
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