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[Meenah]

[quote]gmdcblack wrote:
ah, you should try being seen as the gold-digging man-ho that stays home.

Matt you are too funny. I actually laughed so hard I spit coffee on the computer screen.
Luanne

[Sheherezade]

ah, you should try being seen as the gold-digging man-ho that stays home.

Have you considered stand up? You do have a unique niche......Now, back to those bon bons!!

[Vishenka69]

Matt, that's hysterical. But I do know another speciment.

[HeartRN]

Matt, please kindly replace "computer goober" with "Man-Ho"!!!!

I honestly laughed to the point of tears... Thank you!

[HeartRN]

Tracy--YES, I have found people do say "female" in place of "woman"! Weird! Where in VA are you? We are in Richmond....for just another year.....

[mommax3]

SO, tell me, Matt, just what does a gold-digging man-ho wear around the house? You really crack me up!

On a more serious note, I have experienced this a little bit in the past four years, but when we were in Indiana buying the house last week, I got my first "real" dose of this and it was unpleasant since it came from my mom! We were able to get the house inspected last week, so I invited my mom to drive down to where we were so she could see the house while we were there during the inspection. She was very quiet while she looked at it.....was critical of a few very minor things.....and then later asked me if we were sure we could afford our mortgage payments. I hastened to reassure her that we were not pushing the envelope at all and had bought at the low end of what the bank said we could "afford" (y'all know how that goes, right? ) in order to put her mind at ease. She said "I guess (DH) must be making a good salary", and I told her how much he was making.....I actually thought I had already told her, but I guess not....anyway, she REALLY got quiet then and things just felt very awkward and uncomfortable.

Granted, my mom comes from a fairly humble backgroud and as an adult (an elementary teacher w/Master's degree) has never made more than 50K a year. We struggled a lot when I was younger since my Dad didn't pay child support regularly. So I know that my life right now is different than anything she has experienced. BUT I am 36 and DH is 34 and he has worked extremely hard since he was 18 years old, without any breaks, to get to this point. I have worked hard too, both outside and inside the home, and I'll be darned if I am going to feel like either of us has to apologize for the house we can finally afford.

But it did make me feel very sad. I hope she gets over it. And I hope I never lose my sense of what life is like for most people in this country.

Sally

Tracy--YES, I have found people do say "female" in place of "woman"! Weird! Where in VA are you? We are in Richmond....for just another year.....

Yep. Richmond. Until August, perhaps late July.

SO, tell me, Matt, just what does a gold-digging man-ho wear around the house? You really crack me up!

Yes! Do tell. It paints quite a mental image.


Sorry that happened with your mom, Sally. I've realized that when I have griped about living on just a resident's salary that that is what a lot of people make for their whole lives. Good reminder.

[PrincessFiona]

I know i'm resurrecting this post...but I had to add my .02 and our most recent experience.

We became friends with some non-docs that seemed to be intimidated by the fact that Thomas is a doc. When Thomas got his car, the man got a new car...when I got my digital camera he got a new digital camera (that was more expensive than mine, of course). It started to feel like everything was a competition, which was ridiculous.

In any case, I just let it go...but it seems like the adults just didn't want to have anything to do with us anymore...Their two kids were best friends to both Andrew and Amanda....now their kids never call anymore and we are the only one to invite them over. Example: Yesterday Andrew called the boy and asked him if he could spend the night tonight..the boy was really excited about it....and then today when he was supposed to come over and didn't, Andrew called him back...and his dad said "no sleepover". This is the 3rd time. The boy said he would be able to come over tomorrow from 12-4 (but I'm waiting for that to fall through too.)

The little girl was Amanda's best friend and they used to talk to each other on the phone and get together once a week. Now the girls have been reduced to writing each other letters and sending them with the mailman! They live 3 minutes from our house.

Weird.

kris

That is so sad about the kids.