Does this exist??

OK, maybe it's just me but....

Don't act like I'm the scrub nurse when we are putting sheets on a bed or painting a room or moving a piece of furniture. The cold mechanical directions about what I should do next to help along each step of YOUR procedure really p*ss me off.

Not just you Angie .... not just you.

During our recent house hunting trip in KC, dh acted as though I'd never traveled before - all the way down to reminding me when to put my tray back up before landing!

Another suggestion for the book:
Chances are if you're in the hospital / studying 12+ hours/day, I WILL spend more money than you do while getting the things that our family needs / uses on a weekly basis? Just where do you think that peanut butter comes from, anyway?

[Phoebe]

Here are mine:

Don't bombard me with questions as you immediately walk in the door, like is the checkbook up to date. Did so and so call. Do you see these screaming kids running around and the food burning on the stove? I have other things to think about than what tasks I completed today. Wait until after dinner.

Drop the double standard about me spending money on our family. My goal in life isn't to put our family into debt. You can do the grocery shopping if you want to go out and spend some money.

Leave the orders at the door. I am not a nursing staff and I am not your clean up crew. Don't expect me to jump when you want something done. Just like I tell my three year old, ask nicely.

Stop resenting me for having a life outside of your job.

That should do it for now.

Jennifer

[Flynn]

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE put your dirty clothes in the hamper. I KNOW people clean up for you all day but I am NOT YOUR MAID.

Please don't go through the mail for "fun stuff" open things that might be interesting and leave disappointed while I get left with all the opened mail you discarded AND all the bills. I AM NOT YOUR PERSONAL ASSISTANT.

Please put things on the calendar. I don't remember what you said to me when nine other things were going on and you said MAYBE YOU WOULD HAVE THAT DAY OFF.

[Rapunzel]

I am not your secretary. Any important professional correspondance, board exam applications, loan deferment forms, state licensing paperwork, etc. is primarily YOUR responsibility. I can help with a few things as a favor IF you ask nicely but this is primarily a part of YOUR job. And, I don't take dictation.

Jennifer

[Sheherezade]

Love to find out I'm not alone. And, the mail thing? Are we married to the same man?

How about

Don't yell "Have fun!" when I'm rushing out the door alone to go grocery shopping. That does not count as "me" time!!

And WHAT is up with complaining about all the unopened mail when it all has HIS name on it?

The only things I open are obvious junk or stuff from schools...which I open after I call him to tell him it has arrived and ask if he wants me to read it to him.

Please note the last part.

I CALL HIM to tell him if something came from school. Oh, nevermind, HE hasn't noted it.

Every buggery day he will call to ask if the whatever has come from school yet. Then he freaks out if the mail hasn't arrived by 3 like it does on Saturdays when he's home.

Don't yell "Have fun!" when I'm rushing out the door alone to go grocery shopping. That does not count as "me" time!!

CLASSIC! My uncle was in the hospital on a Friday night, so I left the boys w/dh (around 7PM) to go visit. I was home before the boys were in bed. On Saturday, I went to my friend's paint-your-own-pottery studio with a friend WHILE dh and the boys were NAPPING - for roughly 1.5 hours. After the boys were in bed that night, dh says "so did you get a nice break this weekend w/all of your running around?"

Don't yell "Have fun!" when I'm rushing out the door alone to go grocery shopping. That does not count as "me" time!!

CLASSIC! My uncle was in the hospital on a Friday night, so I left the boys w/dh (around 7PM) to go visit. I was home before the boys were in bed. On Saturday, I went to my friend's paint-your-own-pottery studio with a friend WHILE dh and the boys were NAPPING - for roughly 1.5 hours. After the boys were in bed that night, dh says "so did you get a nice break this weekend w/all of your running around?"

This was typical in our house as well. I've eliminated the comments by giving it right back. One day last week he stopped to get fitted for a tux and pick up a gift for his brother on his way home from work. When he got home I commented that it was 'so nice he got to relax away from home a bit and get some stuff done at the same time'. Or I'll offer, when he's especially stressed out, to 'watch' DD and let him do the grocery shopping. He's realized it doesn't make any sense when he says it either. 8)

Or I'll offer, when he's especially stressed out, to 'watch' DD and let him do the grocery shopping. He's realized it doesn't make any sense when he says it either. 8)

Love it! I will be using that one (once the boards are over).

We are all married to the same person. Based on the 2 most popular threads these days, we need to write a coping book on dealing w/physicians AND their mothers!

-Just because I have a normal job and can squeeze in 6-8 hours of sleep a night, doesn't mean that I should stay up late lots of nights to "understand" you.

-Please don't think just because you've earned us a debt bigger than any house we'll own in the next 10 years that we don't have the money to buy me new bra

-Please don't think that just because you work so hard at the hospital that my vacation is my normal job

-Please take no responsiblity for keeping in touch with your family birthdays, graduations and holidays. I love talking to your uncle and mom when they call and trying to explain to them why you can't find the time to call or email them back

-Please don't feel the need to pay attention when I tell you about the balances on the bills, and where I paid what. I enjoy much more hearing about your research on the newest big screen tv's you see in your future somewhere.

Sssomeboddyy sstttooppp meeeeee!!!
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We should put this all in a list and post it somewhere for the members to use when they need a chuckle.

[DCJenn]

No, what we should do is copy it and send it to medical schools around the country. Not that it would help...

Jenn

-Please take no responsiblity for keeping in touch with your family birthdays, graduations and holidays. I love talking to your uncle and mom when they call and trying to explain to them why you can't find the time to call or email them back

Those conversations are SO much fun! Especially when you're the "gold-digging-uneducated-white-girl" who is taking the prodigal son away from the family & culture. Suddenly his no-show at all family events, etc. is MY doing! :argue:

We apparently are all married to the same person! The alarm clock one bugs the heck out of me, and the grocery store ones do, too! I'm too tired to think of others right now.

[smiley]

This is my favorite thread! I do the alarm clock thing and I didn't think that anyone would find it annoying, simply because I've never given it a second thought before. I realied that it must be very bad considering the number of upset posters here! I recently asked my husband if it bothers him and he assured me that he is okay with it, and I am excited because I love, love, love the snooze button!

Wow, I thought I was the only one married to a narcissist! I laughed so hard when I read these posts! I guess misery loves company.

How about these...

Please don't treat me like a case study. When I was in the labor room having our 2nd child, my DH had all the interns gather around and listen to my pregnancy induced heart murmur. He managed to make even that day all about him!

Please don't nod in agreement when family and friends state how "exhausting and overwhelming" things must be for you. Don't forget you spend your days off surfing, skiing, playing golf or raquetball and visiting with friends. I spend my days off home with sick children.

Please don't ignore me for weeks and then come home with a bottle of wine expecting sex. A glass of Merlot is not considered foreplay!