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Okay, so my husband is 2 months into his 3rd year rotations for med school, currently on surgery. We are trying to adjust to this new way of life (not having such a smooth transition to say the least), it's only 2 months in and I'm already pretty sick of it--this feeeling has just hit pretty hard only recently. Throughout medical school, I have always tried to be super-understanding and given him and his endeavors a lot of priority over a lot of things in our life. Even more so with the start of his 3rd year.
My real rant is this: I work full-time, I have a pretty laid-back cookie-cutter type job. Within the past month, I found and interviewed for another job that would utilize my skills and background more=more fullfilling to me. It has been stressfull trying to go about securing this new job and leaving my current one. I negotiated the final offer with the new job yesterday and gave my two weeks' notice yesterday as well, I was so excited. I get really nervous and anxious with this type of thing and there is a lot more that went on yesterday throughout all of this that I couldn't wait to tell my husband about when he got home. I waited until about 6:45 pm when I had to leave to be somewhere else and he still wasn't home (that's okay, I think I've learned not to have any expectations about that sort of thing). As I was on my way, he called me to let me know he was home. I would be back at 9 (like I am every single Monday night) and gave him the abbreviated version of the day's events. When I returned home at 9, he was asleep on the bed, with a full, steaming cup of coffee on his desk and all his textbooks strewn about (he has his surgery exam for the rotation this Friday). I sat down and was getting ready to tell him all about my day when he laid back down. I asked him if he was going back to sleep and he got mad at me and accused me of being unreasonable for not giving him more time to wake up. Needless to say, my feelings were really hurt and we went to bed last night without me even getting to share about my big day.
He continued to accuse me of being unsupportive and unreasonable and that I should get up w/ him at 4 am for the next 2 months and not go to bed until midnight and see how I feel. I AM SUPPORTIVE OF HIM EVERY OTHER DAY OF THE YEAR practically, I just wanted one day for him to give me the same. I got a great job, w/ a big pay increase, that I think I'm gonna love--I was so excited. Now, I'm bummed b/c I'm not even that excited to talk to him about it anymore.
My real rant is this: I work full-time, I have a pretty laid-back cookie-cutter type job. Within the past month, I found and interviewed for another job that would utilize my skills and background more=more fullfilling to me. It has been stressfull trying to go about securing this new job and leaving my current one. I negotiated the final offer with the new job yesterday and gave my two weeks' notice yesterday as well, I was so excited. I get really nervous and anxious with this type of thing and there is a lot more that went on yesterday throughout all of this that I couldn't wait to tell my husband about when he got home. I waited until about 6:45 pm when I had to leave to be somewhere else and he still wasn't home (that's okay, I think I've learned not to have any expectations about that sort of thing). As I was on my way, he called me to let me know he was home. I would be back at 9 (like I am every single Monday night) and gave him the abbreviated version of the day's events. When I returned home at 9, he was asleep on the bed, with a full, steaming cup of coffee on his desk and all his textbooks strewn about (he has his surgery exam for the rotation this Friday). I sat down and was getting ready to tell him all about my day when he laid back down. I asked him if he was going back to sleep and he got mad at me and accused me of being unreasonable for not giving him more time to wake up. Needless to say, my feelings were really hurt and we went to bed last night without me even getting to share about my big day.
He continued to accuse me of being unsupportive and unreasonable and that I should get up w/ him at 4 am for the next 2 months and not go to bed until midnight and see how I feel. I AM SUPPORTIVE OF HIM EVERY OTHER DAY OF THE YEAR practically, I just wanted one day for him to give me the same. I got a great job, w/ a big pay increase, that I think I'm gonna love--I was so excited. Now, I'm bummed b/c I'm not even that excited to talk to him about it anymore.
It is hard to see two inches past the end of your nose during some rotations, apparently, which sucks, because your stuff is important, too! (It is! It is!) It's not every day you get a new and better job, and I hope you still enjoy it and I hope he comes to his senses later and makes it up to you.
You two are new to this whole rotation/hospital slave thing. It sucks that he wasn't responsive. Did he know you this was coming down that day? You'd think he would have been curious about what happened. You deserve some attention for your good news. Too bad he's so sleep deprived and stressed. He'd probably see that for himself.
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