Anyone else out there pregnant or trying? ( 1

Adrienne, this is going to be our fourth child - third pregnancy. We have twice the number of baby items that we need (particularly for girls) since I had the twins! So, we don't need to buy a single thing - my sister and mother are shop-a-holics though and really, really want to buy things, so I have given them both nursing clothing catelogs and have told them that the most helpful thing they could buy would be nursing tops for me! Those clothes are SO expensive, but they are getting much cuter and more in-style.



Kelly, (did I get your name right? I am sorry - I have low blood sugar right now and am highly forgetful) subsequent pregnancies do not necessarily get easier - you just get more used to the changes and problems and can better anticipate and plan. The biggest problem with having other children during a pregnancy is that you do not have the time and quiet to get all of the rest that your body craves. Sleep and energy are my biggest issues right now.



Kristen, I wanted to stop immediately after the h*ll that was the girls' birth, but last spring things seemed to be just ripe for another child and my husband and I really, really enjoy babies and the kids we already have. This time I think I am tired of being pregnant - I want to have a rest from this stuff for a good long while. IF I decide I want another kid or two and I'm not quite 35 then we'll probably have more. I know that Jon will not want me pregnant past that age because he is too worried about complications, but that means I have eight more years to contemplate and be tempted to have another kid or two. Anyway, I don't think you need to see a shrink, there's a natural drive there to nurture and love our offspring and create more offspring to love and nurture and it's something that everyone has to deal with in their own ways.



Jennifer

Adrienne, this is going to be our fourth child - third pregnancy. We have twice the number of baby items that we need (particularly for girls) since I had the twins! So, we don't need to buy a single thing - my sister and mother are shop-a-holics though and really, really want to buy things, so I have given them both nursing clothing catelogs and have told them that the most helpful thing they could buy would be nursing tops for me! Those clothes are SO expensive, but they are getting much cuter and more in-style.



Kelly, (did I get your name right? I am sorry - I have low blood sugar right now and am highly forgetful) subsequent pregnancies do not necessarily get easier - you just get more used to the changes and problems and can better anticipate and plan. The biggest problem with having other children during a pregnancy is that you do not have the time and quiet to get all of the rest that your body craves. Sleep and energy are my biggest issues right now.



Kristen, I wanted to stop immediately after the h*ll that was the girls' birth, but last spring things seemed to be just ripe for another child and my husband and I really, really enjoy babies and the kids we already have. This time I think I am tired of being pregnant - I want to have a rest from this stuff for a good long while. IF I decide I want another kid or two and I'm not quite 35 then we'll probably have more. I know that Jon will not want me pregnant past that age because he is too worried about complications, but that means I have eight more years to contemplate and be tempted to have another kid or two. Anyway, I don't think you need to see a shrink, there's a natural drive there to nurture and love our offspring and create more offspring to love and nurture and it's something that everyone has to deal with in their own ways.



Jennifer

Adrienne, this is going to be our fourth child - third pregnancy. We have twice the number of baby items that we need (particularly for girls) since I had the twins! So, we don't need to buy a single thing - my sister and mother are shop-a-holics though and really, really want to buy things, so I have given them both nursing clothing catelogs and have told them that the most helpful thing they could buy would be nursing tops for me! Those clothes are SO expensive, but they are getting much cuter and more in-style.



Kelly, (did I get your name right? I am sorry - I have low blood sugar right now and am highly forgetful) subsequent pregnancies do not necessarily get easier - you just get more used to the changes and problems and can better anticipate and plan. The biggest problem with having other children during a pregnancy is that you do not have the time and quiet to get all of the rest that your body craves. Sleep and energy are my biggest issues right now.



Kristen, I wanted to stop immediately after the h*ll that was the girls' birth, but last spring things seemed to be just ripe for another child and my husband and I really, really enjoy babies and the kids we already have. This time I think I am tired of being pregnant - I want to have a rest from this stuff for a good long while. IF I decide I want another kid or two and I'm not quite 35 then we'll probably have more. I know that Jon will not want me pregnant past that age because he is too worried about complications, but that means I have eight more years to contemplate and be tempted to have another kid or two. Anyway, I don't think you need to see a shrink, there's a natural drive there to nurture and love our offspring and create more offspring to love and nurture and it's something that everyone has to deal with in their own ways.



Jennifer

Oh my god! Your 4th child. I'm still wondering why I got myself into THIS pregnancy - just kidding. I'm just in the middle of having a bad stomach day. I feel so sick. I can't wait until this stage ends.



Anyhow - that is nice that you won't have to worry about buying anything. I wish we had that luxery. Any suggestions for those of us who are going on child 2 and need to buy a new double stroller, et al?



I agree with the comment about the pregnancy thing not getting any easier. First off each pregnancy is different. And as for this time around things are a bit more difficult for me. I am much more sick this time and having to run after a 2 year old doesn't make things any easier. I agree that the quiet time the first time around is a wonderful thing to have.



Well not too much longer for you - keep us posted!

Oh my god! Your 4th child. I'm still wondering why I got myself into THIS pregnancy - just kidding. I'm just in the middle of having a bad stomach day. I feel so sick. I can't wait until this stage ends.



Anyhow - that is nice that you won't have to worry about buying anything. I wish we had that luxery. Any suggestions for those of us who are going on child 2 and need to buy a new double stroller, et al?



I agree with the comment about the pregnancy thing not getting any easier. First off each pregnancy is different. And as for this time around things are a bit more difficult for me. I am much more sick this time and having to run after a 2 year old doesn't make things any easier. I agree that the quiet time the first time around is a wonderful thing to have.



Well not too much longer for you - keep us posted!

Oh my god! Your 4th child. I'm still wondering why I got myself into THIS pregnancy - just kidding. I'm just in the middle of having a bad stomach day. I feel so sick. I can't wait until this stage ends.



Anyhow - that is nice that you won't have to worry about buying anything. I wish we had that luxery. Any suggestions for those of us who are going on child 2 and need to buy a new double stroller, et al?



I agree with the comment about the pregnancy thing not getting any easier. First off each pregnancy is different. And as for this time around things are a bit more difficult for me. I am much more sick this time and having to run after a 2 year old doesn't make things any easier. I agree that the quiet time the first time around is a wonderful thing to have.



Well not too much longer for you - keep us posted!

Jennifer, you and I know how tough twin pregnancies can be!!! After my twins were born, I wanted another just so I could experience what having a singleton was like, what it would be like to have to cuddle only one and not feel rushed to get to the other one, to lavish your attentions on one. And at age 40, everyone is telling me "you can do it". If I were younger, I would!!! But I am feeling like too many odds are against me. I saw a neonatologist to get advice on what a subsequent pregnancy would be like for me at my age. She told me that I had a 30% chance of developing preeclampsia (that would mean again, since I had it with the twins). Let alone all the other genetic risks that come with age (how did this age creep up on me so quickly?). The bottom line is that I wish I were younger and could afford to wait another few years. But that's not how life is, is it?

Jennifer, you and I know how tough twin pregnancies can be!!! After my twins were born, I wanted another just so I could experience what having a singleton was like, what it would be like to have to cuddle only one and not feel rushed to get to the other one, to lavish your attentions on one. And at age 40, everyone is telling me "you can do it". If I were younger, I would!!! But I am feeling like too many odds are against me. I saw a neonatologist to get advice on what a subsequent pregnancy would be like for me at my age. She told me that I had a 30% chance of developing preeclampsia (that would mean again, since I had it with the twins). Let alone all the other genetic risks that come with age (how did this age creep up on me so quickly?). The bottom line is that I wish I were younger and could afford to wait another few years. But that's not how life is, is it?

Jennifer, you and I know how tough twin pregnancies can be!!! After my twins were born, I wanted another just so I could experience what having a singleton was like, what it would be like to have to cuddle only one and not feel rushed to get to the other one, to lavish your attentions on one. And at age 40, everyone is telling me "you can do it". If I were younger, I would!!! But I am feeling like too many odds are against me. I saw a neonatologist to get advice on what a subsequent pregnancy would be like for me at my age. She told me that I had a 30% chance of developing preeclampsia (that would mean again, since I had it with the twins). Let alone all the other genetic risks that come with age (how did this age creep up on me so quickly?). The bottom line is that I wish I were younger and could afford to wait another few years. But that's not how life is, is it?

Sorry that I ended my last post on such a down note. I just am really struggling lately with my feelings about my biological clock. We made a conscious decision to wait until the end of residency to have children, and I'm glad we did. However, I never counted on twins, on such a tough pregnancy, and on such a dangerous delivery. So now I'm feeling just a little too rushed to make a decision. I guess it's pointless for me to go over it and over it, because nothing can change my age or turn back the clock. But I've been struggling, and mostly in silence.

Sorry that I ended my last post on such a down note. I just am really struggling lately with my feelings about my biological clock. We made a conscious decision to wait until the end of residency to have children, and I'm glad we did. However, I never counted on twins, on such a tough pregnancy, and on such a dangerous delivery. So now I'm feeling just a little too rushed to make a decision. I guess it's pointless for me to go over it and over it, because nothing can change my age or turn back the clock. But I've been struggling, and mostly in silence.

Sorry that I ended my last post on such a down note. I just am really struggling lately with my feelings about my biological clock. We made a conscious decision to wait until the end of residency to have children, and I'm glad we did. However, I never counted on twins, on such a tough pregnancy, and on such a dangerous delivery. So now I'm feeling just a little too rushed to make a decision. I guess it's pointless for me to go over it and over it, because nothing can change my age or turn back the clock. But I've been struggling, and mostly in silence.

Well, Janet, you are definitely right about the twin pregnancy thing - it is an entirely different experience from a "normal" pregnancy! It IS twice as hard to have two babies (I really feel for women who have triplets). And, complications in pregnancy always make a pregnancy more difficult - I hear you on the pre-eclampsia! But, for me, my singleton pregnancies have both been pretty much the same. Unfortunately this pregnancy isn't the easiest one - but I do have the perspective of having had twins last time, so this is relatively easy compared to that experience!



You know, Janet, I've had what is probably the opposite of your emotions on the subject of having more kids: I keep having these anxiety dreams that I am pregnant with my fourth child and in HIGH SCHOOL! I suppose it's because on some level I feel pretty young to have so many children - I didn't really realize I even had those feelings until I started these recurring dreams. Kind of funny.



Jennifer

Well, Janet, you are definitely right about the twin pregnancy thing - it is an entirely different experience from a "normal" pregnancy! It IS twice as hard to have two babies (I really feel for women who have triplets). And, complications in pregnancy always make a pregnancy more difficult - I hear you on the pre-eclampsia! But, for me, my singleton pregnancies have both been pretty much the same. Unfortunately this pregnancy isn't the easiest one - but I do have the perspective of having had twins last time, so this is relatively easy compared to that experience!



You know, Janet, I've had what is probably the opposite of your emotions on the subject of having more kids: I keep having these anxiety dreams that I am pregnant with my fourth child and in HIGH SCHOOL! I suppose it's because on some level I feel pretty young to have so many children - I didn't really realize I even had those feelings until I started these recurring dreams. Kind of funny.



Jennifer

Well, Janet, you are definitely right about the twin pregnancy thing - it is an entirely different experience from a "normal" pregnancy! It IS twice as hard to have two babies (I really feel for women who have triplets). And, complications in pregnancy always make a pregnancy more difficult - I hear you on the pre-eclampsia! But, for me, my singleton pregnancies have both been pretty much the same. Unfortunately this pregnancy isn't the easiest one - but I do have the perspective of having had twins last time, so this is relatively easy compared to that experience!



You know, Janet, I've had what is probably the opposite of your emotions on the subject of having more kids: I keep having these anxiety dreams that I am pregnant with my fourth child and in HIGH SCHOOL! I suppose it's because on some level I feel pretty young to have so many children - I didn't really realize I even had those feelings until I started these recurring dreams. Kind of funny.



Jennifer