Saying no without saying "no"

[MAPPLEBUM]

Ha! I still remember my twin brothers (10 years younger) ominously repeating "Look at my eyessss!!" Apparently that was a thing.

[GreyhoundsRUs]

Phrases I obviously use a lot (since they are repeated to the dog or baby):
"Look at me"
"Do you understand"
"That's dangerous"
"Great listening"

I've been doing better, but I feel like I still have a long way to go (I'm also horrible at picking battles)...

We had an episode the other night where something wasn't going her way, and so she started kicking her legs saying "no no mommy, go away". I stopped her legs, looked her in the eye (I think she was curious what I was going to do) and said "we do NOT kick. If you are not kind, there will be NO story. You will go to your crib and go to bed." She immediately said "A wanting pajamas on now" in a very sweet/sorry tone.


Wife of a PGY-4 Orthopod

[Sheherezade]

That sounds like how I dealt with my kids all the time - even now. I consider myself a pretty lenient parent. I'm a strong advocate of having few rules but firm rules. There is no question about what we DON'T do; I'm not shy about laying down the law. I just don't do it for much. My kids have always been pretty good about obeying those firm rules. Of course, there are those phases where they don't listen to diddly-squat and you just have to be there to stop them.

Angie


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[Deebs]

We do "looks with your eyes, not your hands." For the Christmas tree, I have a one finger rule. They can touch, but just with one finger. I swear it takes away the temptation.


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