In the thick of residency with 2 kids and my own demanding job and DH never home

Thank you for the laugh Gray Matter Wife! WHERE in the heck is your upstair neighbor a Chief at?!?!?! Sure isn't at DH program. Though from what DH said, b/c hospital is a Level 3 trauma, they read more than majority of programs. (or so he says) DH has played golf maybe 4 times in his residency. I love that! Thank you!

Welcome, Katherine! I'm another lawyer, married to a 3rd year med student. I can empathize with all the difficulties you've described. We aren't quite there yet-- a couple years from residency and just contemplating kids-- but doing everything you are doing already intimidates me. I'm impressed with you!

What's your practice like? Any way you could cut back on hours a bit to give yourself some sanity?

I do civil litigation. NOT the right practice to be married to a doc. Two stress filled jobs makes for many challenges but I do love many aspects of my practice. My DH loves that I do that. I have just now started to think about cutting back b/c I am starting to get a little bit depressed but I don't know how to do it w/o my bosses finding out. Things so far have worked out pretty decently. It hasn't been till the past couple months that it has gotten a little sticky i.e. DH working nights and I have to fly to another city for work over night. My nanny (not for status, just for necessity) loves it b/c she gets extra $$$ for staying overnight. I have thought about sitting down with DH and going thru a budget again. Right now he is making $42K. I know we can't afford our mortgage and basic expenses and I don't know how to find a lower paying job without putting my kids in daycare. I have no hangups or issues with daycare. Actually tried it twice with my 3 year old but after he got croup at daycare , was in ICU as a 15 mo old on a ventilator for a week, I cried Uncle and got a nanny. Don't regret it AT ALL. Allows me to provide for the family financially but now I am wondering if this constant juggling is wearing more on me than I thought.

[v-girl]

Welcome to the group!

[houseelf]

Welcome home. I think you're going fit right in.

Kelly

[GrayMatterWife]

Thank you for the laugh Gray Matter Wife! WHERE in the heck is your upstair neighbor a Chief at?!?!?! Sure isn't at DH program. Though from what DH said, b/c hospital is a Level 3 trauma, they read more than majority of programs. (or so he says) DH has played golf maybe 4 times in his residency. I love that! Thank you!

Level 1 Trauma in St Louis. But it's a freaking HUGE program. I think they had 80 RADs residents. Something like that. So they have lots of people to share call with.

Welcome to the board!
You have come to the right place... there is always someone who can lend and ear, a shoulder or some great advice You will love it here!

[moonlight]

Welcome to the group! I'm glad you found us!

[MDPhDWife]

Glad you found us! I look forward to learning more about you!

[Flynn]

Welcome!!!!

[radwife]

Hi Katherine! Welcome to the group. My DH is a PGY-1 radiology resident. He's mentioned to me before that PGY-3 is going to suck because of the call schedule. I'm sorry to hear it's true. You've found the right place though, this group has been fantastic!

[lirio]

Welcome! Glad you found us!

[Thirteen]

Welcome Katherine!

[ides]

Welcome!!!

[scrub-jay]

Welcome! I think you'll really enjoy it here. Although I am on the newbie side (married to an MS1), I love to hear the experiences of what to expect.