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While I am not yet the 'wife' of a doctor, only the girlfriend at this point, I stumbled across this site while seeking advice on dating a surgeon.
This is my first experience dating someone in the medical field and I must say it has been a trying experience thus far. Having read several of the threads on this site I have gained a greater sense of comfort in knowing so many others are experiencing (experienced) some of the same issues and problem.
Patience would have to be the biggest thing that has come across in most of what I have read on this site.
I consider myself to be a very patient person, but with that being said, I am still an emotional, hormonal female, very strong and independent yet finding myself visiting that dark little corner of the room known as self doubt.
A little bit about me and my situation: I am a 30s female, never married, no kids. I have my own business that keeps me busy 9-5 (on a good week) and traveling 10+ weeks a year. I am in a pretty serious relationship with my boyfriend (we've met the families at this point, talked about starting a family, etc.), but as patient as I am it is getting harder and harder for me. At this point we live about 2 hours apart (3 if you count traffic), so not only am I dating a surgeon, but it is a long distance relationship at that. We've made it work buy spending the weekends with one another (luckily he is established and has his own practice, so at this point he doesn't go in on weekends other than for emergencies or when he is on call). During the week, both of our schedules are pretty hectic, we text (typically little short messages), but talking on the phone is pretty much almost nonexistent and if we don't get to see one another on a weekend (typically when I have to go out of town for work), it is almost 2 weeks we go without anything other than text messages (a point of issue with me that I would love suggestions on how to address).
I know this is his super busy time of year (he had to leave a day early from our weekend together to see a patient who was having complications, this happens about once every couple of months), and I am trying to be patient and understanding, but it is hard not to be disappointed when what little time we do have together gets cut short. I wish I could relocate so that we could spend more time (even be it brief) but with my company based here and his practice based there it is something that I will not consider unless we have made a formal commitment (ie engagement or marriage). He is a very kinda and loving man, who I trust explicitly (I go through my weekly feelings of self doubt when all I am getting are short little text messages), but when I see him, his face just lights up as soon as he sees me walk into the room and I know by the efforts that he makes that he is in love with me. With that said, I don't know why it is so hard during the weekdays when we are apart and why the self doubt keeps creeping in.
I guess in coming here I am looking for support from others who are in similar situations. How do you find ways to keep from those feelings of self doubt? Be patient and understanding? Keep yourself occupied on the nights alone? Keep from getting disappointed when he has to cancel plans because he got a call?
I look forward to reading more posts from others and any words of wisdom and advice you can give this relative newbie to the world of dating a doctor would be greatly appreciated!
This is my first experience dating someone in the medical field and I must say it has been a trying experience thus far. Having read several of the threads on this site I have gained a greater sense of comfort in knowing so many others are experiencing (experienced) some of the same issues and problem.
Patience would have to be the biggest thing that has come across in most of what I have read on this site.
I consider myself to be a very patient person, but with that being said, I am still an emotional, hormonal female, very strong and independent yet finding myself visiting that dark little corner of the room known as self doubt.
A little bit about me and my situation: I am a 30s female, never married, no kids. I have my own business that keeps me busy 9-5 (on a good week) and traveling 10+ weeks a year. I am in a pretty serious relationship with my boyfriend (we've met the families at this point, talked about starting a family, etc.), but as patient as I am it is getting harder and harder for me. At this point we live about 2 hours apart (3 if you count traffic), so not only am I dating a surgeon, but it is a long distance relationship at that. We've made it work buy spending the weekends with one another (luckily he is established and has his own practice, so at this point he doesn't go in on weekends other than for emergencies or when he is on call). During the week, both of our schedules are pretty hectic, we text (typically little short messages), but talking on the phone is pretty much almost nonexistent and if we don't get to see one another on a weekend (typically when I have to go out of town for work), it is almost 2 weeks we go without anything other than text messages (a point of issue with me that I would love suggestions on how to address).
I know this is his super busy time of year (he had to leave a day early from our weekend together to see a patient who was having complications, this happens about once every couple of months), and I am trying to be patient and understanding, but it is hard not to be disappointed when what little time we do have together gets cut short. I wish I could relocate so that we could spend more time (even be it brief) but with my company based here and his practice based there it is something that I will not consider unless we have made a formal commitment (ie engagement or marriage). He is a very kinda and loving man, who I trust explicitly (I go through my weekly feelings of self doubt when all I am getting are short little text messages), but when I see him, his face just lights up as soon as he sees me walk into the room and I know by the efforts that he makes that he is in love with me. With that said, I don't know why it is so hard during the weekdays when we are apart and why the self doubt keeps creeping in.
I guess in coming here I am looking for support from others who are in similar situations. How do you find ways to keep from those feelings of self doubt? Be patient and understanding? Keep yourself occupied on the nights alone? Keep from getting disappointed when he has to cancel plans because he got a call?
I look forward to reading more posts from others and any words of wisdom and advice you can give this relative newbie to the world of dating a doctor would be greatly appreciated!
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