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  • At Last!

    Hi everyone! I am so relieved to finally post! I signed up a few days ago but do to glitches in the system I kept getting denied when I wanted to post on the forums! A big hug and thanks to Kris for all her help in getting things straightened out!


    I am a SAHM. I have 3 kiddos my son is 3 soon to be 4 (beginning of Oct.) My daughters are 2&1/2 and 11 mos. We moved 2,000 miles away from all friends and family almost 2 years ago for his first private practice job as an interventional cardiologist. Needless to say I have not enjoyed the move or his workaholism...He has privileges at 6 hospitals & he goes to four daily. I keep telling him it's not a professional necessity to be gone from the house between 6:00/6:30 AM to 9:00 PM regularly. He has a partner(Jr like him) that stops everything and heads home no later than 6:00 almost everyday. Another partner(Sr) has a PA , and therefore is able to have a life...Even if he left early and even if he had a PA I still would not be happy w/ where we live... PLEASE for those of you out there that have "been there done that" tell me how you learned to love a new city that is the antithesis of what you wanted in life...we live in Phoenix...and I just can not get over missing the seasons...friends / family...it's going on 2 years and I want desperately for him to consider moving back to the mid-West.

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    Welcome to the site. I'm glad Kris helped straighten things out with the forums. I personally have not moved with my fiance yet, as he's still in med school, but we have many members who have moved cross country on more than one occasion. I'm sure you'll get some good feedback on that topic.
    Cristina
    IM PGY-2

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    • #3
      So sorry you have been having trouble posting.

      Between the hours and location, sounds like you are having a tough time. We have a few members in the Phoenix area, maybe you could meet them or get some suggestions on "getting to know" your city.

      Glad you found us! Post often.

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      • #4
        Welcome - I have moved with my DH before, now twice. Of course both were for medical school and residency so there was always an end in site. I don't have an answer for a first job, sorry. But we are all here to be supportive of each other so feel free to vent and we'll help when we can!
        Wife to NSG out of training, mom to 2, 10 & 8, and a beagle with wings.

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        • #5
          Welcome...Wow...figuring out what went wrong was like giving birth or something! I'm glad that we finally figured it out and that you were able to login and post! I'm sorry it took me so long to get it all working.

          In any case...Welcome Aboard!

          kris
          ~Mom of 5, married to an ID doc
          ~A Rolling Stone Gathers No Moss

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          • #6
            Welcome, glad you found us . Kris is awesome!!!! My DH is in private practice (solo) and works 15 hours a day every day and it sucks. He loves it. Again, welcome.
            Luanne
            wife, mother, nurse practitioner

            "You have not converted a man because you have silenced him." (John, Viscount Morely, On Compromise, 1874)

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            • #7
              Welcome! We are in the Phx area too and I am from the mid west. I am sorry you are having such a hard adjustment. We should try and have an AZ meeting as there are quite a few of us now! PM me if you have any questions about the area although I don't really get out much.

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              • #8
                Heya,

                I'm a newbie to Phx and due with my first in late October. We came here from Ohio, but we're natives of the Pacific Northwest. I think I'll be able to do without the winter, but sometimes that blazing heat and lack of moisture really gets to me (she says from an 87 degree room -- we're stingy with the a/c and this room gets the evening sun something fierce).

                It took a while to adapt to Cleveland too, but I did. Getting out and doing something (in that case, taking up cycling) was helpful. I'm hoping that joining parenting groups and the LLL will help this time 'round.
                Alison

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                • #9
                  Welcome, glad you found this place. It is great. I grew up in the midwest as well. Looking forward to getting to know you.

                  Jennifer
                  Needs

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                  • #10
                    Welcome Suziebelle,

                    I am currently living 3600 miles apart from SO so can't answer your question but will be making the move away from my family and all my friends to move to the staets so will be in a simular situation to you eventually, can't wait on one hand to be with SO but its going to be hard to leave my comfort zone here in Ireland.

                    Hope there are people who can offer some advice

                    Jane

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                    • #11
                      Chiming in a bit late, but welcome!!! I see you've found our Phoenix members! I see what you mean about missing seasons - but as far as I can tell summer is 5 months long, winter is 5 months long and spring and summer are about 2 weeks each!

                      Good luck to you!
                      married to an anesthesia attending

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                      • #12
                        Welcome!

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                        • #13
                          Tara,
                          It sounds great! There's so much to do! I didn't realize it.
                          I'd love to visit again. I did the Grand Canyon with my parents when we were little, but to have it in my "back yard," would be so neat.
                          married to an anesthesia attending

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                          • #14
                            Thanks Tara for the post... sadly I am well aware of all the opportunities AZ can offer me to get my "seasonal fix"...it's just that the kids are so young and DH acts as if taking time off is a sin...plus we have not had any luck getting a babysitter...I just miss rolling around in autumn leaf piles, building snowmen in our own yard, all the GREEN and flowers that were right outside my window. Please don't get me wrong, I am able to recognize the beauty in the desert and yes I love eating outside, by the pool in middle of winter...I am a believer in a "it takes a village"... raising babies w/ out ANY relatives and or close family friends around is not advisable IMO unless of course you have a nanny...which I have been working on but still a BIG decision to bring someone into the home...anyway thanks again for all the suggestions...the picnic in the mountains sounds like just the ticket for us...now if I can only get him at the very least to take a long weekend!?!?

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                            • #15
                              Tara, thanks for the head's up. At this point, dh is in his first "real" year of his program. I've been sending some feelers out to find out if he wants to do a fellowship, but because he's only just completed his internship year, he's really not sure what he wants to do after residency. I think a big part of him wants to specialize, but he also could see himself *not* doing a fellowship. It's good to know what's at the end of the road. Thanks, Tara!

                              Suzie, is it feasible to do some daytrips with your kids sans husband? 3 kids are a handful, I'm sure.

                              The nature is spectacular in Arizona! Go to Mt. Lemmon, if you can. Mountains and hills are things that we don't have in the midwest (that we transplants to the midwest die for)! The hills in Wisconsin and man made ski slopes don't count.
                              married to an anesthesia attending

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