Tomorrow is match day for urology. I can't believe it's finally almost here! What did you all do to celebrate? I wanted to plan something, but my husband is so nervous that he won't match, he wouldn't let me.
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I don't understand why all the programs can't match early, but I guess with some of the bigger specialties you really do need more time to interview more students. Most of the places that he interviewed at offered 1-3 possible interview days, so it made scheduling everything a little bit tricky, and he was super stressed out with it all. The worst was the span of 7 interviews in 9 days, and he had to take off November and December from rotations, so he's going to have to work in May, when most of the other students have off.Allison - professor; wife to a urology attending; mom to baby girl E (11/13), baby boy C (2/16), and a spoiled cat; knitter and hoarder of yarn; photographer
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Don't worry about your dude's lack of excitement over making plans to celebrate post-match. It's totally normal. EVERY med student is worried about not matching and doesn't want to make any kind of plans one way or the other. Maybe have some tentative, open-ended plans in the works for when he finally quits stressing the hell out.
During our last year of residency, the dude's program interviewed 70+ candidates for 8 slots. It takes a while to get through them all and to give everyone an equal opportunity to impress (or not).
No matter how long candidate season lasts, it's always too long. The med students want to know where they're going ASAP (which is totally understandable), and programs want to know who they're getting for the next few years.
Good luck! Crossing my fingers for you guys today.
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Good luck!!! We planned a big dinner at an Irish pub with our two best friend couples to celebrate, because we were just sure we'd be staying. It turned into a mope-fest when we matched somewhere else, so we all headed back to our apartment and ordered pizza.Laurie
My team: DH (anesthesiologist), DS (9), DD (8)
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My husband, who is just the nicest guy in the world, was an unexpected, uncharacteristic total dickhead the day of match. Back then, NSG was an early match, with no pre-match day scramble for the non-matched. It was all extremely tense, given that NSG is such a tough match. My husband did not match at his #1 spot. He DID match at a program that was far better than his #1 match (which he had ranked as #1 only because he already had research collaborators there). He acted like a total jerk. He was completely disconnected; almost despondent. He was really disappointed. It was completely bizarre--people he didn't even know who heard where he'd match were stopping him at school to congratulate him, and he could barely muster a "thanks." The program he matched to had a really malignant reputation (which turned out not to be true) and he was really concerned he'd wash out or just not fit in.
I had planned this big surprise party for him, with about 25 friends. I'd made a big cake. I cancelled the party and threw out the cake, and didn't tell him about either for several years. His response was so out of character, I had no idea what to do.
He was like that for about three weeks. Just a total jerk. Finally, I told him, "Guys out there would cut off their left nut to match where you matched. So, either get on board with this, or decline the match and take a year off for research then match into another field. But don't take this incredible opportunity ungratefully. You were never entitled to match at your first choice. You are being an asshole, petulant child." Or something really, really close to those words.
After that, he decided to stop being a jerk and the rest is history.
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Good luck - I remember it well, like it was yesterday, even though it was almost 9 (holy crap!) years ago!
Can you throw something quick together for the weekend if he's happy? My DH was also an early match and we had a small get together at our house that weekend with about a dozen close friends.
So exciting!!Wife to NSG out of training, mom to 2, 10 & 8, and a beagle with wings.
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Originally posted by diggitydot View PostDuring our last year of residency, the dude's program interviewed 70+ candidates for 8 slots. It takes a while to get through them all and to give everyone an equal opportunity to impress (or not).Allison - professor; wife to a urology attending; mom to baby girl E (11/13), baby boy C (2/16), and a spoiled cat; knitter and hoarder of yarn; photographer
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Originally posted by ladymoreta View PostGood luck!!! We planned a big dinner at an Irish pub with our two best friend couples to celebrate, because we were just sure we'd be staying. It turned into a mope-fest when we matched somewhere else, so we all headed back to our apartment and ordered pizza.Allison - professor; wife to a urology attending; mom to baby girl E (11/13), baby boy C (2/16), and a spoiled cat; knitter and hoarder of yarn; photographer
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