Privacy as the Doctor's Wife

[Michele]

How about having to awkwardly correct them that I am his *ex* wife? Happens at least weekly. His patients are also my clients.

[diggitydot]

My doc is a partner in DH's clinic. She's a really great doc and I'm not ashamed to admit that she only accepted us as patients because we're DH's family (her practice is full and closed). Even if I were worried about any kind of privacy issues, she and her support staff are exceptionally professional and on the ball.

Honestly, I'm more weirded out by DH's patients who corner me and want to talk about wildly inappropriate shit that I want nothing to do with. Like the hairstylist who went through the salon appointment book to find my cell number so she could text me pics and discuss her miscarriage. Or a stylist in another salon who was telling me all about her husband's erectile dysfunction in less than clinical terms. I am not friends with these people. Literally, only ever been a client. Weirdos.

[v-girl]

The only awkwardness I had was at the fertility doc and finding out DH and the doc took some classes together — then talked about school while doc was examining me. But that was just as much DH's fault as the doctor's.


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[spaz]

I once had my feet in stirrups and heard, "Are you DrK's wife? "

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Well we chat about everything since they used to live across the street!!! My family practice doc sits next to me in SS. ( It is either him or my best homeschooling friend's husband.) And yes all of the church members think that I already know about all of their procedures. There was a guy on the praise band that didn't make it to church once and assumed I knew because my husband had operated on him. It is just life in a small town. I've also learned that everyone is related to someone else I know.

[Pollyanna]

No awkwardness here. Everyone is very professional and careful to focus on only patient issues. At dh's training institute they'd ask him his opinion if he was in the room and we both hated that.

[Ladybug]

OMG Mrs K. "Yep. That's alllllllllll his."

[houseelf]

Fortunately we have always been in big enough towns that I can use practitioners not related in any way to my husband. I'm freakishly strict about NOT mixing any business and personal relationships. Not just in medicine, all areas. I think you need to be able to have hard, impartial conversations with people. The only exception to this if is something major needed taken care of and someone we had a personal relationship with was the best. Even then, I would have to tell them up front that personal relationship aside, it is more important to hard, real conversations. This would probably upset that person, but I have a hard time not letting people crossing boundaries so I try to clearly delineate them from the get go. I do realize that I'm freakishly vigilant about this however.

[OrionGrad]

At dh's training institute they'd ask him his opinion if he was in the room and we both hated that.

I saw a MFM once who completely faced DH and explained everything to him, like I was barely even there. He was a nice guy and he meant well, but it was super annoying. I might not have gone to med school, but it's still my body we're talking about.

[diggitydot]

I had a family med doc once when DH was in med school who talked to me solely in medical jargon and highly technical terms until I finally had to stop her and remind her that *I* wasn't the one in med school and had no idea WTF she just said.

[MAPPLEBUM]

My new PCP hardly broke script when I told her dh is in residency. She didn't give a fuhhckk