Sylvia! That's just miserable. I resisted posting because I didn't want to be a downer. My DS was like this in preschool. It was torture. I stuck it out because the teachers told me that it would only get worse if I pulled him out. They saw it as a hump in development he needed to get over - and then I guess they thought it would be fine. Well. He gets anxious about a new school NOW at age 10 and it takes weeks to settle in. It's just the way he is. Maybe it's the same for your little guy. In retrospect, I don't think leaving him in or pulling him out would have any impact on his future social life. At least in our case, the social anxiety did not lessen with practice. (And my poor kid has had 5 new schools across the training road.)
Here's what did help him.
One...consistency. Getting out of the house was a little easier if I promised him a hot chocolate and a story in the morning before we had breakfast and left. It gave him some Mom time and he knew what to expect. (Getting out of the house was still nerve racking when zero hour came. ) Same for pick up. Same time, same place. Never different.
Two....making a friend. When he got to know one of the kids in class, he stopped freaking out about school. Apparently, one day another child announced to the class that Zach was his best friend. Who knew? After that, Zach would go without stress. I think he felt that he'd never fit in and making friends was so hard for him. Nice to have one "ready-made". I'd try to vigorously pursue the playdate idea for your son if you are going to keep him there. If one child doesn't work out, try another. Maybe you'll find someone he clicks with and then he'll feel comfortable in the classroom.
Big big That's a rough, rough time. I hope it gets better soon.
Here's what did help him.
One...consistency. Getting out of the house was a little easier if I promised him a hot chocolate and a story in the morning before we had breakfast and left. It gave him some Mom time and he knew what to expect. (Getting out of the house was still nerve racking when zero hour came. ) Same for pick up. Same time, same place. Never different.
Two....making a friend. When he got to know one of the kids in class, he stopped freaking out about school. Apparently, one day another child announced to the class that Zach was his best friend. Who knew? After that, Zach would go without stress. I think he felt that he'd never fit in and making friends was so hard for him. Nice to have one "ready-made". I'd try to vigorously pursue the playdate idea for your son if you are going to keep him there. If one child doesn't work out, try another. Maybe you'll find someone he clicks with and then he'll feel comfortable in the classroom.
Big big That's a rough, rough time. I hope it gets better soon.
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