Ok, I'll tentatively stick my toe in here since I am the opposite end of the spectrum.. I guess why isn't wait on the conversation? My boys and I have talked about it but more along the lines of no method of birth control is ever 100 percent effective, so if you are not ready to be a father, just don't.. They know that their sister was conceived while on birth control. ( I was on the pill and took it 100 percent as prescribed!!!!!) I had this experience when I was 20 and at Baylor. I was working at 6 Flags as a costume character. It was like a locker room atmosphere and there was one 16yo boy there who talked about his "exploits." ( I had to wonder, though, how much of it was true....) One day as we were walking to our next station he came out just shaking his head. He could not believe that Mary admitted she was a virgin. ( a sweet 16yo girl) I said, "So what, so am I!!" He looked absolutely shocked and said, "Oh, is it religious reasons?" "No, not completely. First of all, I've never trusted a guy enough to give him my body. I just don't think guys your age are that reliable. I haven't found one that would be a good father yet. Secondly, I have WAY too many plans and things I want to do. I don't have time to get pregnant. No method of birth control is 100 percent and I'm just not willing to put my own plans in jeopardy." To which he looked at me and said, "Wow, I never thought about that. That is a good point.."
I didn't have to worry about getting a sexual transmitted disease and I didn't have to worry about getting pregnant. I am way too much of a control freak and I tried to control my variables as much as possible.
Oh course this is a mute point with my boys. Although they are almost 20 and 18, they haven't ever been on a date. ( Not my choice!!!!) My nearly 18 year old is considering asking a girl out but he wants to get to know her better first. I think it is kind of funny. He just came forward as accepting the call for the ministry... He wants to be a pastor. The girl he is considering is our new pastor's oldest daughter.... Would probably be a good fit as she would know what to expect... Grin.
I know...I'm old fashioned. I don't think I've stuck my head in the sand. We've talked about it, but so far it just hasn't been an issue in our house....
I didn't have to worry about getting a sexual transmitted disease and I didn't have to worry about getting pregnant. I am way too much of a control freak and I tried to control my variables as much as possible.
Oh course this is a mute point with my boys. Although they are almost 20 and 18, they haven't ever been on a date. ( Not my choice!!!!) My nearly 18 year old is considering asking a girl out but he wants to get to know her better first. I think it is kind of funny. He just came forward as accepting the call for the ministry... He wants to be a pastor. The girl he is considering is our new pastor's oldest daughter.... Would probably be a good fit as she would know what to expect... Grin.
I know...I'm old fashioned. I don't think I've stuck my head in the sand. We've talked about it, but so far it just hasn't been an issue in our house....
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