Hmm. I'm going to tiptoe in as well to offer a respectful counterpoint to the abstinence advice. Obviously, waiting as long as possible is in everyone's best interest to ensure maturity, safety, emotional readiness.
Nonetheless, I don't want sex and marriage to be paired up as the only acceptable route. You don't have to get married to be successful in life. Sex is ok outside of marriage. It is a fun, healthy, and consenting adults can enjoy it as one of many ways to enhance their relationships. Abstinence as the paramount goal with birth control offered as a consolation prize sets kids up to feel like failures or sluts or engage in secret or subversive behavior. Human sexuality is a part of healthy development. Some of the messages that get tied into the abstinence before marriage ideal aren't part of healthy self-esteem or relationships. I applaud Heidi for tackling this proactively. I'm sure she's not endorsing it "hey, son hit that!"
I think talking to kids about sex, birth control, waiting as long as humanly possible, the danger of porn, mysogyny, respect, consent, and maintaining healthy relationships are far more important topics to cover.
Nonetheless, I don't want sex and marriage to be paired up as the only acceptable route. You don't have to get married to be successful in life. Sex is ok outside of marriage. It is a fun, healthy, and consenting adults can enjoy it as one of many ways to enhance their relationships. Abstinence as the paramount goal with birth control offered as a consolation prize sets kids up to feel like failures or sluts or engage in secret or subversive behavior. Human sexuality is a part of healthy development. Some of the messages that get tied into the abstinence before marriage ideal aren't part of healthy self-esteem or relationships. I applaud Heidi for tackling this proactively. I'm sure she's not endorsing it "hey, son hit that!"
I think talking to kids about sex, birth control, waiting as long as humanly possible, the danger of porn, mysogyny, respect, consent, and maintaining healthy relationships are far more important topics to cover.
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