I am putting this in the debates forum because I can see this turning in to one... Here's the story..
DH used to TA anatomy to first years before he was accepted to medical school. We became very close with that class, myself especially close to the girls. Fast Forward 3.5 years and they are in full swing of interview season and whatnot. One of the girls is a super smarty pants and is hoping to match into ENT. She has had quite a few interviews, and a few at some big name places. She's interviewed in NYC and love loved the program, the atmosphere and, if she could have, would have signed on the dotted line right there. She's finished the rest of her interviews and is in the ranking process. She and her boyfriend have been together 3ish years and has been talking about proposing for the better part of a a year now. I wouldn't believe it, but I sold the ring to him myself in july of last year. Who knows why he hasn't done it yet, but she does not know that he has it. He hates NYC. H.A.T.E.S. it. So he has told her he would not like to live in NY so this program she's after shouldn't even make the list. They have both lived within a 90 mile radius of home their whole lives and this would be a transition that he can't bear. He's pretty high up in his company, which is based in Florida (owned by a college buddy's dad who he interned with in college) but works remotely.
I, personally, think it is bullshit. She has worked her ass off to get where she is. Research, Master's Program, killer board score, and senior AOA. He expects her to not rank this program, based on how he feels about location and COL. (As an aside, they have no kids (dont want any for at least 4 years) and she has barely any medical school or graduate school debt). Maybe it is because DH lurves ENT so if he has the scores to get it when it comes around, and he's still interested, I think he should rank ANY program he would go to, regardless of where it is. Again, I am not currently in this situation and I'm completely aware I could be singing a different tune in two years, but after everything we will have been through to get to that point, I can't imagine holding him back like that...
What do you think?
FUN FACT: I actually kept my damn mouth shut when she asked me my opinion, and you KNOW how difficult that was for me.
DH used to TA anatomy to first years before he was accepted to medical school. We became very close with that class, myself especially close to the girls. Fast Forward 3.5 years and they are in full swing of interview season and whatnot. One of the girls is a super smarty pants and is hoping to match into ENT. She has had quite a few interviews, and a few at some big name places. She's interviewed in NYC and love loved the program, the atmosphere and, if she could have, would have signed on the dotted line right there. She's finished the rest of her interviews and is in the ranking process. She and her boyfriend have been together 3ish years and has been talking about proposing for the better part of a a year now. I wouldn't believe it, but I sold the ring to him myself in july of last year. Who knows why he hasn't done it yet, but she does not know that he has it. He hates NYC. H.A.T.E.S. it. So he has told her he would not like to live in NY so this program she's after shouldn't even make the list. They have both lived within a 90 mile radius of home their whole lives and this would be a transition that he can't bear. He's pretty high up in his company, which is based in Florida (owned by a college buddy's dad who he interned with in college) but works remotely.
I, personally, think it is bullshit. She has worked her ass off to get where she is. Research, Master's Program, killer board score, and senior AOA. He expects her to not rank this program, based on how he feels about location and COL. (As an aside, they have no kids (dont want any for at least 4 years) and she has barely any medical school or graduate school debt). Maybe it is because DH lurves ENT so if he has the scores to get it when it comes around, and he's still interested, I think he should rank ANY program he would go to, regardless of where it is. Again, I am not currently in this situation and I'm completely aware I could be singing a different tune in two years, but after everything we will have been through to get to that point, I can't imagine holding him back like that...
What do you think?
FUN FACT: I actually kept my damn mouth shut when she asked me my opinion, and you KNOW how difficult that was for me.
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