How to fend off nurse 'dawkter hunter'?

[SuzySunshine]

Kinda hijacking the post (although I really like the side discussion on visiting DH at the hospital)-- Labmouse we are on the interview trail and I feel your pain about being the secretary, booking the trips, getting suits ready, etc. I'm ready for it to be over and we're on interview 8 of 15. Ugh, it's exciting but painful.

This doesn't change after interviews, then it is fellowship interviews, licensing, etc. It never ends.

[diggitydot]

This doesn't change after interviews, then it is fellowship interviews, licensing, etc. It never ends.

Agreed. It's never ending.

Part of the reason I REALLY hope to see a contract soon from the faculty position DH has been offered is because the program coordinator is an organizational goddess who takes care of probably 95% of the paperwork shit fest.

Seriously, to everyone interviewing -- a program's organization may sound trivial, but it makes all the difference in the world. Keep an eye out for both good and bad as it will give you an idea of how the program is run.

[HouseofWool]

Agreed. It's never ending.

Part of the reason I REALLY hope to see a contract soon from the faculty position DH has been offered is because the program coordinator is an organizational goddess who takes care of probably 95% of the paperwork shit fest.

Seriously, to everyone interviewing -- a program's organization may sound trivial, but it makes all the difference in the world. Keep an eye out for both good and bad as it will give you an idea of how the program is run.

So much word. Honestly, it is astonishing the amount of bs paperwork there is and I'm not even married to a doc anymore. I just babysit one at work. Gawd love him, but the boy cannot stay organized to save his soul if it involves much beyond patient care. That, he carries a farking encyclopedia around in his head.

[Vanquisher]

Yup, my Dawkter needs two intelligent, resourceful, hard-working women to keep his gig going with all the paperwork. Even then, we still drown sometimes!

[GrayMatterWife]

my husband has always been such a dick that i don't think anyone would bother with him. True story. I've heard bf, through the grape vine, "i wonder how dr _____ treats his wife...??"

hahahahhaha!!!! So neurosurgery, too!!!

[MrsSz]

Never a problem I had.

But then, I pole-dance and bake like Martha Stewart minus the pretentiousness.

So f**k you, tramp, if you think you could even compete.

Literally LOLed!

[Chrisada]

My husband has always been such a dick that I don't think anyone would bother with him. True story.

Hmmm... My OB/GYN DH too! The other residents always ask how I deal with DH and say I must really keep him in his place at home. DH is always asking us to visit when he is on overnight call, and gets sulky when I say hell no! It's late and cold! But we still go to the hospital frequently if only to drop off some food.

[Phoebe]

I used to visit DH occasionally in residency. There was a lot of waiting around. We were dating then. In fellowship, we worked at the same hospital and would often meet for lunch. As an attending, Dh is too busy so we don't visit often unless DH forgot his pager or something. The kids are also not allowed in the NICU which makes it difficult to visit. I have been there lately to deliver girl scout cookies though.

[TigerLily]

My take on the OP's story:

I'm more in favor of Kahlil Gibran's "The Prophet" where he says that two trees should grow near each other but not too close, for if they do, that one will wither in the shade of the other. That two columns can not hold up a building if they are side by side, that there must be space between.

My FAVORITE book!

[niener]

I'm more in favor of Kahlil Gibran's "The Prophet" where he says that two trees should grow near each other but not too close, for if they do, that one will wither in the shade of the other. That two columns can not hold up a building if they are side by side, that there must be space between.

I've never read it but it's going on the list! Great quote.

[medpedspouse]

I'm more in favor of Kahlil Gibran's "The Prophet" where he says that two trees should grow near each other but not too close, for if they do, that one will wither in the shade of the other. That two columns can not hold up a building if they are side by side, that there must be space between.

Hey - we used the same quote at our wedding too!
"Stand together, yet not too near together. For the pillars of the temple stand apart, and the oak and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow"

[Cinderella]

Though I haven't read that book in about ten years I remember I liked that book too. I especially like the part quoted.

[Ladybug]

We're enmeshed and tangled. It works for us.

[peggyfromwastate]

We're enmeshed and tangled. It works for us.

Lol. That's us too.

[Pollyanna]

We're enmeshed and tangled. It works for us.

Ditto!